20 possible reasons why you have never had a boyfriend and what you can do –

It’s uncomfortable, as well as embarrassing, to admit that you are an adult and have never had a boyfriend. Much more so when your friends enjoy their relationships, and some have even had several boyfriends but you still haven’t found that ideal person.

This can make you feel a little frustrated, since dates like Christmas, your birthday or the dreaded (and hated) Valentine’s Day can make you miss having romantic company.

Is something wrong with you? Not necessarily. The truth is that there are people who have an easier time starting relationships, and that has a lot to do with their personalities.

We tell you 20 main reasons that can explain why you stay single.

1. You are shy

Would you rather hide your emotions than hurt someone or allow others to discover who you really are?

Shyness is a very common personality aspect, but it makes it much more difficult for others to get to know you. It is normal to feel embarrassed or afraid to let others get close and see you vulnerable.

But it is the only way to make new friends and meet valuable people. Try to work on that shyness so that you can overcome it, at least enough to be able to make your qualities shine before others.

Read our guide on how to be that shy girl and the 5 ways to drive men crazy with shyness

2. You have trust issues

Upbringing has a lot to do with who we are and who we become. It is likely that in your family or with your friends you have seen cases of infidelity or deception, which have made you a cynical or incredulous person, who always expects the bad from others.

Not everyone deserves your trust, that’s true, but you can’t close yourself off from meeting other people just because you have doubts. You can miss out on real opportunities and good friendships for fear of being hurt.

Try to put aside that cynicism and allow yourself to get to know others before judging them. You’ll be surprised.

Read our guide on how to stop being insecure: 10 things you have to remember

3. You go out little

If you are one of those who think that love will knock on your door without you lifting a finger to find it, I am sorry to tell you that you are wrong.

If something characterizes young and active people, it is that they always keep themselves busy socially: parties, clubs, meetings. Those are the best places to meet people and potential partners, so if you always stay locked up at home, it will be difficult for you to start new relationships.

Getting in touch with others allows you to explore their tastes, have fun, and meet new people who could become your partner. Love cannot be forced, but you do have to give it a little push to get it all started.

4. You are too demanding

You probably have a long list of the physical, emotional, and personal attributes of your “ideal boyfriend.”

We are not referring to normal characteristics that one aspires in a partner: that he is nice, fun, respectful and intelligent. That’s very good, because they are characteristics that you can easily get in a boy and that are also very healthy for a partner.

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But if you start demanding too many things it will be increasingly difficult to find them. Nobody is perfect and you can’t expect your ideal partner to necessarily be a prince, millionaire and very attractive. If you wait for a man without defects, you will remain single forever.

Living as a couple involves accepting and granting many things that we dislike about the other person. Remember to weigh the most important thing and ask yourself if it’s worth missing a good game just because it doesn’t look exactly how you expect.

5. Your self-esteem is low

Do you think your friends are prettier, taller, thinner, and more desirable than you? Maybe you feel invisible next to them, as if you couldn’t get anyone’s attention like they do. That’s only true as long as you believe it.

Beauty is not just something physical, it has to do with how you feel, what you think about yourself and what you project to others. If you feel like a ghost with no confidence, that’s what they’ll see. If you are used to knowing and highlighting your qualities, that is what you will teach others.

And if you still feel not very pretty, you should know that many guys value other attributes such as confidence, honesty and determination over physical beauty.

6. You find it difficult to flirt

Your lack of experience with men, added to shyness or lack of self-esteem are the main cause of this. Maybe you get so anxious when a guy approaches you to flirt that you freeze up and don’t know how to respond.

Maybe you don’t even realize that they are flirting with you, due to that same inexperience.

7. You have few friends

Friends are often the best way to meet new people, and if you have few it’s obvious that your options are limited.

However, beyond your circle of friends you will surely have colleagues, classmates and even neighbors who in a simple social gathering can introduce you to a potential partner.

8. You neglect your appearance

You like to dress comfortably and simply. It’s not bad, nor do you look ugly, but you don’t stand out either. It is understandable that you prefer to dress simply, and there is nothing wrong with that, but from time to time you need to pamper yourself, put on makeup, wear elegant clothes and allow yourself to attract attention.

It’s not that you always look like a model, but it does show that you put effort into your appearance.

Physical beauty is not the most important thing, but it does help attract any guy you like.

Read our guide on the 12 tricks to dress and look slimmer

9. You run away from boys

Your little experience talking to boys makes you run away from any situation in which you might interact with one.

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Not only do you not know how to flirt, but you become paralyzed or feel the need to walk away when a guy approaches you to talk to you, thereby completely closing off any hope of becoming a closer friend or even girlfriend with him.

Surely you run away from those situations because you are afraid to leave your comfort zone, but this way you will never stop being single.

Trust yourself and look for interesting topics, find out about their tastes, and enjoy the situations as they present themselves, enjoy the opportunity to get to know that person before starting the race.

10. You studied at a girls’ school

The best friendships of the opposite sex are achieved in adolescence. So if your high school education was in a religious school, or only for girls, it is natural that you have not been able to interact properly with boys.

But don’t let that limit you, having friends of the opposite sex is a great help to understand the social forms and rituals of flirting. You can learn a lot from them, so don’t close yourself off from meeting men.

11. You have never lived in a student residence

When you share experiences with students of the same age, who live independently, you enjoy many more opportunities to interact with kids.

If this was not your case, you may feel this as a limitation in meeting guys.

But remember that you still have many opportunities to meet men. They can be co-workers, interesting people in your environment – Generally couples are within the area in which we operate daily.

12. All the cute guys are already in a relationship

That’s not true! There will always be someone available waiting to enjoy your company. Focus not on those who are already committed, but on those who are still as free as you are now.

Remember when we talked about being very demanding? If a guy has everything you’re looking for, but he also has a girlfriend, that’s the best reason to forget him.

13. You don’t consider yourself funny

You probably consider yourself boring because you don’t enjoy attending parties, dancing until dawn, or drinking. This doesn’t make you a boring person, just different than most.

It is true that parties are excellent opportunities to meet people in a relaxed atmosphere, but they are not the only ones. Plus, if you don’t usually go dancing all night, there’s no point in looking for a partner who does enjoy it, because you won’t have much in common.

There are many and varied ways to have a fun time without having to go to a club. Have a coffee, go out to dinner, enjoy a museum. Don’t feel bored because you have different tastes, I assure you that many guys feel the same. You are not alone.

14. You are very focused on your priorities

If your priority in life is your profession or your studies, it is logical that you do not leave much time for other things, such as love.

It’s very good that you want to develop as a person, but that doesn’t mean you should sacrifice your emotions. The important thing is that you find a way to balance your personal life with your professional life.

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But yes, if you think that you cannot dedicate the appreciation and perseverance that a partner needs, it is better that you deal with one thing at a time.

It may be that you are not ready to share your life yet.

15. You think you are self-sufficient

To be happy you don’t need to have a partner, but how does it help you feel better and give you company? Having a relationship should be a decision that you make because you want to add it to your life, not because you are dependent on another person.

But being sure of yourself and being happy alone is not the same as being arrogant. Sometimes, so much security projects the idea that you don’t want anyone by your side and that’s why, perhaps unintentionally, you push away potential partners.

16. You become obsessed with helping the boy you like

We have all fallen in love, and many times we do excessive things in order to help and be part of the life of that person we are attracted to.

Unfortunately, many times this attitude ends up alienating them instead of attracting them. Men like to fend for themselves and look for support in a girlfriend, but not a new mother.

When you worry more about caring for them and supporting them, they see a girl who makes their lives easier, but not a real partner. Make yourself a challenge and let them be the ones who have to earn your affection.

17. You give too much importance to the opinions of others

If you are single or in a relationship, it is your choice and no one has to have an opinion on the matter. You’re probably embarrassed by your lack of experience, that a boy you know feels strange knowing that he’s first, or that your friends think about your (lack of) social life.

Why do you pay more attention to others than to your own feelings? Perhaps your inexperience and the desire to please others are the reasons that have prevented you from getting a partner.

18. You don’t share tastes with kids your age

We relate to others because of the tastes and interests we have in common. If so far you haven’t met a guy who motivates you to be interested in what he does, you may have to change the places where you are looking for a partner.

Go to places where you can meet people who are as passionate as you are about those same activities.