15 tips to be happy without a husband

What do Cinderella, Snow White and Sleeping Beauty have in common? They were only happy when Prince Charming appeared! If the ideal man doesn’t appear, is a woman’s destiny to be a Cinderella forever? None of that!

“Happiness is a way of seeing life, and there are several”, says psychologist Lidia Aratangy, author of O Amor Tem Mil Caras (ed. Olho Dágua). Being alone can seem scary in some situations, as in the case of single mothers like Carol (Camila Pitanga), from “Insensato Coração”. “But, if the woman develops other areas of her life, she will not have as much space for the man that is missing”, says the psychoanalyst Beth Valentim.

Losing the fear of loneliness, increasing self-confidence and knowing that your happiness is not in anyone’s hands are secrets to achieving fulfillment. Learn to have fun with your own company.

1. Love yourself

You’re not alone because you don’t deserve love, because you’re not pretty or interesting enough. Not having someone right now is just a fact, not a drama. Accept yourself as you are.

2. Abuse of femininity

It’s not because you’re single that you have to walk around untidy, without makeup, with late waxing…

3. Do gymnastics

It’s good for the body, health and head.

4. Be creative

If you are now a mother and without a partner, you will not be able to have the life you had before. Use creativity to make pleasurable programs together with your child. It’s also worth asking your mother for help and, in return, spending an entire afternoon reviewing her childhood photos with her, so that both of you feel happy.

5. Never abandon your friends

A friendship can last forever, already a marriage, you never know.

6. Don’t close yourself off to a new love

Being happy alone is a victory, not a condemnation. But it’s not because no relationship has worked so far that it will be like this forever. Open up!

7. Drive away loneliness

You are single, not abandoned. And this condition is not punishment. Live!

8. Don’t put your lack in food

Think that you can make whatever menu you want without having to worry about the dishes your husband doesn’t eat, your son doesn’t like…

9. Invest in yourself

Take a course, plan trips, have projects.

10. See advantages

In some moments, you will want affection, love, sex. But think that you will be more master of your nose and will be free from jealousy!

11.Don’t want to be perfect

Is your life not a bed of roses? Believe me: not even the most happily married celebrities are. Everyone has bad days, crises, problems.

12. Always dream

“Those who don’t dream suffer more than those who dream”, says psychoanalyst Beth Valentim.

13. Don’t create expectations

A partner is not going to fill your life or solve your problems.

14. Forget society’s prejudices

People charge, charge… Family and friends always expect women to get married, have children and be good grandmothers. Turn off society’s horn, after all, nobody pays your bills, right?

15. Change the focus

Forget about your love life, work, have fun with friends, dedicate yourself to your family. Don’t summarize your life to find a loving partner!

They are enough!

Be inspired by the example of beautiful and successful actresses who don’t have a husband…

1. Luiza Brunet
“I have been married for almost 25 years. After three years apart, I’m proof that you can be happy alone. We have to be satisfied with our company and not settle into a relationship just to have someone.”

2. Raia
After 17 years with Edson Celulari, the actress broke up and lives a quiet phase. “Either you stand still, pretending you’re experiencing something, or you turn it into something else. Is it easy? No.”

3. Sandra Bullock
The American actress who played Miss Congeniality was betrayed and broke up shortly after winning an Oscar for the movie The Blind Side. Even single, Sandra Bullock adopted a baby and is happy with life.

How to be a good single mother

For women who have children and the father is absent or has not even taken care of the child, like Carol, from “Insensato Coração”, being alone can be painful. But you have to lift your head. “If you are pregnant and alone, give yourself some time because that fear at the beginning soon becomes fullness. After becoming a mother, a woman feels powerful!” emphasizes psychologist Lidia Aratangy.

In practice🇧🇷

· Think about the best alternative for when the child is born and you go back to work (babysitter, family member, day care).

· Don’t be afraid to make decisions about the baby, trust your maternal instinct.

· Learn to ask for help. It could be for your mom or even a friend. “Here at home, I joke that when someone asks for help, if they don’t win, they tie”, jokes Lidia.

· Always speak the truth to your child, but with care and affection. · Don’t want to be a mother and father at the same time. Be a good mother and that’s it.

· “Assume that the emptiness of the father exists there, but that it can be mitigated by a male figure. Choose a kindergarten that has male teachers”, suggests the psychologist. How to answer the inevitable question: “Mom, where is my dad?” Answer the truth and say that if the father is not around, too bad for him, he misses the chance to see a great son grow up.