13 reasons why a man leaves his family for another woman?

It is a question that no woman wants to ask.

But it does happen, and if you’re suspecting something, you don’t want to be caught off guard.

If you’re worried that your husband is heading for the exit door, this article is for you.

I can’t make any promises on how to prevent it from happening, but I can tell you what worked for me and the warning signs I noticed and alerted me before we passed the point of no return.

Many men also regret it after separating, so working on the couple before a separation happens could be the best for both.

I cannot fail to mention that the aspect of the children has a great impact on the couple and that it presents many and more challenges.

In this article we will focus mainly on the aspects of the exclusive couple bond and the signs that you will notice when there is a problem.

Later we will delve into effective ways to avoid the worst.

The 13 most important signs and symptoms of why a man leaves his family for another woman

1) He is bored with marriage and tired of it

Many times we are so busy that we don’t see the obvious signs that our husband is bored and unhappy with the marriage.

In my case, I was shocked after 12 years of marriage when my husband finally told me directly that our affair was over and that he was experiencing severe depression over our marriage.

In fact, I was shocked and it was the last thing I expected.

Not everyone is as lucky as I was, I know. Many husbands will start being with other women before they open up to you.

If he never initiates conversations with you, is absent, seems glued to his phone, and basically lashes out at you when you talk, then these are all good signs that he is disconnected from the marriage.

The more subtle indicators that he is about to leave you include:

he never thinks of you, stops helping at home or away, and just treats you more like a roommate than a romantic partner.

2) Communication has disappeared

I will never forget the words of the judge who officiated at my sister’s wedding:

“Communication, communication, communication. This is the basis for any marriage.”

So if they don’t talk about their emotions, their individual problems and pretty much nothing, this is a huge red flag for your marriage.

Men in general are not characterized by wanting to discuss their emotions, but it is important that they create a space for dialogue if they want to work on their relationship as a couple.

3) You have become part of the backdrop for him

This one is hard for many wives to take, even when they notice it.

But I want you to know that it’s not necessarily your fault.

If your husband is looking right through you when he comes home, or treating you like part of the scenery, it is most likely due to his own problems.

Unfortunately though, their behavior and indifference have an obvious impact on you and it hurts.

If he only seems to think of you when he needs something or when he’s checking on something, like you paid the electric bill, then you’re walking into shady ground.

4) You irritate him

A big part of what makes a man leave his family for another woman is when his wife irritates him.

He may tell you directly, but more often than not he will start looking at other women. Inadvertently, he will classify you as a past partner instead of his future.

The worst part of this sign is that sometimes what bothers him is something that you do and that is totally justified.

I mean things like:

Ask you to drink less; Ask him to clean up some more; Express when you don’t feel like having sex; Or just generally speaking your mind on issues you differ with him on

Sometimes this will be an obstacle that you won’t overcome and that will cause him to leave you for another woman. Other times it can be fixed.

5) You are emotionally disconnected

There can be many reasons for this, personal or health problems.

It can often be a sign that he doesn’t feel validated or comfortable with you.

Every couple is different, but if you can see how they used to joke and talk as close partners and now he’s just growling at you, looking pained and sad around you, then something is up.

Whether it has to do with you or not, his emotional disconnection with you can be a big reason why he starts looking for connection and solace in the arms of another woman.

Despite the cliché that men cheat for sex and women cheat for love, the truth is that men often cheat because they don’t feel like their emotional needs are being met.

As Stacey Lloyd writes:

“It has been shown that almost 50 percent of men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally dissatisfied, and unhappy in their relationship. In other words, men cheat to feel valued and emotionally supported, things they don’t feel like they’re getting from their partner.”

6) Feels unwanted

Whether or not it really is, when a man feels unwanted it can be the motivation that lands him in another woman’s bed.

Many times you did not even suspect that it would feel like this and you thought that everything was normal.

But he was getting further and further away from you.

There is something that men need more than anything in a relationship and that is to feel needed and vital to their woman. He needs to protect her and be there for her. It is a concept called the “hero instinct” and you can activate it in him so that he feels essential in your life.

If you’ve felt your hero instincts fading for years, chances are you’re looking to satisfy that need with another woman.

At the same time, he begins to feel that you don’t turn him on, he stops looking at you and wanting you, and he is more and more distant.

7) You feel you have to hide your true self

Here the only way to read this is to honestly observe your own behavior.

Do you sometimes yell at him or tell him to shut up over anything?

Do you dismiss their interests, opinions, and concerns with a shrug or a laugh?

Do you badmouth their friends and basically make it clear that you find their life and social circle kind of stupid?

Maybe he answers you with an apologetic murmur and walks away instead of meeting your eyes and having a real conversation.

All of this can make a man feel like he has to hide who he really is and think he’s not “good enough” for you.

And as you can imagine, this will cause him to look for a woman who does find him good enough.

As marriage coach Sheri Stritof writes:

“Try different ways to show how much you care about him by being warm. Simple things you can do include telling him how much you love him, cheering him up when he has doubts, and telling him you’re sorry when things go wrong.”

8) You don’t treat him very well

There is a tendency to blame and criticize men a lot.

And let’s be fair, sometimes they deserve it.

But in our new world of girl power it’s also fair to admit that sometimes we women fail too.

Think about whether your own behavior hasn’t always been of the highest order and if, frankly, there haven’t been times when you’ve treated him like crap.

Admitting this to yourself, and to him, can be a great tool in avoiding a nasty divorce.

9) You make all the decisions

Many men are attracted to a strong and confident woman.

So if that’s you, congratulations.

But if he’s gotten to the point where you’re basically making all the decisions and determining how everything is going to turn out, this may be too much for him.

Perhaps you are going to the side of the “controllers”. Admit it, it’s not pretty.

He needs to have a say in the important and vital issues of the couple.

But if you always nullify him or are never willing to give in, then your husband will get angry and lose attraction.

He will try to find a relationship in which he can have a say.

Being too dominant in a relationship is bad when a man does it, but it’s also bad when a woman does it.

10) Your sex life has hit rock bottom

You don’t need me to tell you that sex is an important part of a healthy marriage. Everybody knows.

But how good or bad is your sex life, really?

It’s simple: when your husband makes love to you, are you really turned on? Is he authentic? Do you feel connected to you?

It sounds so basic but I’m serious: do you want to have sex or are you just doing it out of habit or basic release?

The sad truth is that many marriages end because physical intimacy just goes away.

This is one of the first steps towards deception.

You have to get your sex life in order if you want any chance of keeping your marriage alive. It is a matter to which both have to contribute equally.

11) One or both have changed

People and situations change. It is a key factor when a man leaves his family for another woman.

These are things out of your control:

Maybe one of you lost a job or had to move. You could be facing a scary health challenge. Maybe one of you has been dealing with a mental health crisis.

The list of what you can change is endless.

Your interests may even have become so far apart that it’s hard to have a decent conversation or understand each other’s sense of humor.

If they are bored or disconnected, he will naturally be attracted to a woman who makes him feel connected and engaged.

12) Feel that you are a burden

Many times a man will walk out the door in search of greener pastures when their relationship has simply become too unpleasant and too much work for him.

It’s horrible to say, but these days there are so many options, even more so with dating apps.

Especially if you don’t have children, he may feel like he has one last chance to escape what has become a boring and painful relationship.

Rest assured that he will withdraw if he feels that the relationship is taking energy and time out of his life to such an extent that he doesn’t even feel good or happy to be around you anymore.

13) He never really felt good with you

This may sound heartbreaking, but if it is the case, sooner or later you will have to face it.

Many people enter into relationships, and unfortunately even marriages, that are simply not good for them or their partner.

There are many cases of codependency.

When one of them leans on the other to complete them or hope to save someone else who is “broken” or desperate inside.

Here are some suggestions on what you can do to avoid disaster if your relationship is heading toward the abyss.

7 ways to prevent your marriage from ending

1) Show him you love him

This doesn’t have to be over the top or anything, but showing him that you love him is crucial.

Men like to feel needed and appreciated.

He will know that you want him around and really value him.

And you are much more likely to respond in kind.

One of the downsides of marriage is that we take our partner for granted.