10 things women shouldn’t do in bed

Okay, everyone already knows that sex is good and that it should be free, fun and spontaneous. But that doesn’t mean that we sometimes don’t have doubts about how to behave at the time H. Thinking about helping you have a very pleasant experience, we prepared this list with 10 things that we women should not do in bed at the time of sex.

Within the space of consent between partners, the main rule of sex is to have no rules. Here are our tips on what not to do if you want to wake up the next day with a taste of “I want more”:

1. Not taking advantage of the moment due to insecurities with the body

Sex should always be a moment of freedom – and that also includes freedom with your own body. Sometimes we worry a lot about the smallest details (what about waxing? and the smell? and cellulite? and that stain? and that crease?), but these concerns, in addition to being imposed by society (and making no sense!) , only serve to prune our pleasure at the time of sex. Keep this in mind: if the person you’re dating doesn’t like your body the way it is, that person wasn’t even supposed to be there.

2. Not having initiative

Since we were little, we hear that a woman has to be sweet, well-behaved and “give herself respect” (hello? a woman should always be respected, there’s no need to give herself respect). This makes many women feel uncomfortable to take the initiative, both to show that they are in the mood for sex and to propose different things. Once again: sex must be a space of freedom. The best person to have as a partner is the one with whom you are free to show what and when you feel like it. The important thing is not to be afraid to show that you are in the mood. And if the other person doesn’t want to at that time, that’s fine, it’s for later – after all, when one doesn’t want to, two don’t… have sex.

3. Ignore your own desires

For the same reason as the topic above, a woman often hides her own desires for fear of what her partner will think. Shall we make a poster? SEX MUST BE A SPACE OF FREEDOM. So allow yourself. Be creative, accept and assume your will. And, when having sex, share it with your partner.

By the way, if you don’t feel free to talk about your desires with the person you’re having sex with, maybe that person isn’t that nice, have you ever thought about that? On the other hand, your partner may be wanting the same thing as you, but, out of shame, neither of you says anything. But if you don’t say it, the other person can’t guess, so it’s important to always say what you want, what you like. Everything that is talked about is more delicious.

4. Don’t talk

Taking the hook from the previous topic, let’s emphasize: dialogue is VERY important in sex. Whether to make your wishes and limits clear, or to teach your partner how to give you pleasure. That’s right: it’s important to show how your body works, your pleasure, so that the person you’re relating to understands better how to act. Our bodies are different, our forms of pleasure too. There is no manual that works for all women (or for all men, of course), so talking about it is essential – in addition to helping to spice up the relationship.

5. Don’t touch yourself

Tell me, friend, how is your relationship with your PPK (your xenin, your bacurinha, your cleide)? One of the most important things to have pleasure with another person is knowing how to have pleasure alone – even to be able to teach them how to do it. And that doesn’t just apply when you’re not accompanied: it’s also nice when having sex to enjoy what you know about your body with your hands or even guiding your partner on the paths of happiness.

And by the way, have you ever thought about trying out some toys, oils, and the like? Sometimes we don’t think about them because of some social blockage, but since we’re talking about freedom, it’s worth thinking about it. Alone or accompanied, these resources can make all the difference when it comes to seeking pleasure.

6. Fake orgasm

Who has never faked orgasm, cast the first stone. Whether to please the other person, or to quickly end a sex that is not so good, practically all women have already pretended they got there… when they were still a long way from the podium. The biggest problem with this is that sex should be good for everyone involved, and if you have to fake it, maybe you’re missing something to be cool: dialogue, horny, comfort, commitment, or whatever. Regardless of what it is, it is important to analyze and change it.

It doesn’t mean that orgasm has to be the goal of every sexual relationship and that every time it needs to be achieved – but faking it indicates that something isn’t connecting in the relationship, and it does indicate that it’s time to have a little chat with him. partner. Again: anything that is talked about works better, and even if one person or the other doesn’t climax in a sex, if the dialogue between partners is frank, it won’t be a problem.

7. Forgetting (or letting your partner forget) that the body has many erogenous zones outside the sex organs

Many sexologists have argued: our largest sexual organ is the skin. And skin covers our entire body, not just our genitals (and breasts, buttocks, and mouth). It is important to explore other parts of your own and the other person’s body, and encourage your partner to do the same. This will definitely multiply – and a lot! – the pleasure of the relationship.

8. Accept positions or attitudes that were not agreed upon

Remember the consent story? So, it is not only valid to define whether or not sex will happen, but also to define what may or may not happen at the moment of the relationship. Your body is yours, it’s your domain, your territory. So, never accept that anyone does anything with him that hasn’t been agreed upon, anything that you don’t like. Don’t do it “to please”, or because you think you have an obligation, because you’re the girlfriend or wife of the person you’re having sex with. Nobody owns your body: the only person who rules your body is you.

9. Unprotected sex

More or less along the lines of the topic above, don’t accept unprotected sex – especially if you don’t want it. In heterosexual sex, many men insist on not using condoms saying it’s uncomfortable or whatever, but then again, you’re not here to please any man. It’s important that you protect yourself against sexually transmitted diseases (they aren’t always visible in the other person’s body) and also giving the man his share of responsibility for contraception. In order to have a pleasurable sexual relationship, it is also important to ensure that it does not lead to an unwanted pregnancy – and this is not just the woman’s responsibility.

Also remembering that coitus interruptus is not an efficient way to avoid pregnancy.

10. Anything that makes you uncomfortable

Nothing that makes you uncomfortable is acceptable when having sex. Nothin’. And that includes places, situations, positions, fetishes and any other proposition. Just because the other person says they want it doesn’t mean you have to accept it. Also, it’s always good to remember that even if you’ve accepted, you can always go back and deny it. Even if you’ve had sex x or y before, you may not want to do it again. Your body is yours, and you are always sovereign in your decisions regarding it. To repeat, to decorate: you are in charge of your body.

Now that you know exactly what our tips are on what not to do in bed to have a very happy and pleasurable experience, how about setting the mood with some spicy jokes to send via WhatsApp?