10 situations that everyone who has been in a relationship for a long time understands

Being afraid of calling too much or being “too available”, liking photos and publications moderately, taking care of appearance too much… how many things scare us at the beginning of a relationship? According to a study by psychologist Daniel O’Leary, from the University of Stony Brook, in the United States, after 10 years of marriage, a couple notes that their feelings have only strengthened. And then, all the fears they faced at the beginning of the relationship become insignificant!

And why can a lasting relationship improve over time? Couples who have already overcome many things together manage to be more mature in all obstacles in life. In addition, they understand very well what coexistence and understanding are.

O awesome.club decided to find out and gather what are the fears that people lose after years in a relationship.

One of the greatest advantages of love stability is that you and your lover know each other very well and trust each other blindly. At times, it gets to the point where you can even finish each other’s sentences you know each other so well.

Therefore, if at the beginning of a relationship you are surprised by points of view of your lover or even his life plans that are different from yours (such as, for example, the desire to open a business), over time, the tendency is that start sharing dreams and desires.

Regardless of the length of the relationship, whether 10, 20 or 30 years or even a few months, communication remains the key to mutual understanding. And if “new” couples limit the topics of discussion and try to agree on anything, those who have spent more than a year together can talk about anything from quantum physics to what it would be like if one of the 2 turned into a zombie. Or even more delicate topics, such as children and ways of dealing with money. The closer and more reliable the communication, the stronger the relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, and even during the first few months of living together, we make an effort to look the best possible, we use the best perfumes, we pay attention to our regimen and training. But, as time passes and intimacy is created, you can even allow your love to see you sick and/or exhausted, but still, you will continue to be the same beautiful person he fell in love with. Your interior will be more important than how you look at the moment.

When a couple has been together for a long time, the tendency is for them to give less importance to the opinion of friends and family. After 10, 20 years of relationship, both know what the other party thinks of certain friends and relatives. Therefore, it is normal for there to be no major conflicts.

Career ups and downs can be the reason for sleepless nights for many of us. Sometimes our work demands a lot of our daily energy. In long-term relationships, couples go through different stages, experience successes and failures together and support each other, without professional problems affecting the relationship.

It is clear that it is very difficult to bear financial crises or the constant problems of a spouse, but those who have been together for a long time tend not to be afraid of these difficulties, because they are used to it and know that just like the relationship experiences moments when one of the two will be very concentrated on their activities, there are also moments when both can live the relationship calmly, without interference. It’s all a matter of time and maturity, achievements that couples achieve over time.

When starting a story with someone, or the moment when things start to get serious, you might think: do I really need this right now? Thoughts such as “I would still like to visit Europe”, “I don’t think about marriage” or “I still want to finish college”, among many other prerogatives, are very common. We always end up finding a “what if?”

When a couple has been together for a long time, it makes no sense to think about what was left behind. You no longer think about the possibility that you have found someone else. He comes to understand, day after day, that his choices have been made and he has not lost anything in life, he has simply followed his path. Thinking about how your life would be otherwise tends to be less frequent.

Being married or dating does not mean agreement on all aspects. Anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship knows this. There will always be disagreements; after all, they are two people, two different universes. However, in mature relationships, in general, disputes are peaceful and do not lead to extreme stress, as the differences between both partners have been known for a long time and mutually accepted.

You will be able to say, without fear of being judged by your partner, that you don’t like doctor Casa, Lar or You simpsons, precisely his favorite series. The important thing is that there is freedom to express opinions and feelings without this leading to major crises.

At the beginning of a relationship, there is a certain “distancing”, as intimacy is not yet strengthened. You don’t want your love to see you sweaty after the gym or with a cucumber mask on your face. Over time, the strengthening of relationships causes enough complicity for both to laugh at the seemingly most ridiculous situations. Therefore, in a courtship or marriage of many years, there is no reason to hide some behaviors.

When a marriage is already many years old, you can easily imagine how your love would behave in a certain situation. And of course, your sweetheart will also know exactly how you felt or what you thought under certain circumstances, simply because they know you so well.

Once we start living together, we pay a lot of attention to our partner’s appearance, perhaps too much. When we’ve been together for a long time, changes in appearance, such as gaining or losing weight, changing hair color or even wrinkles, don’t affect anything at all. It is even common that, due to routine, sometimes we do not even notice the subtle differences in the look of our love.

It is very important that, in all love relationships, whether recent or long-term, respect and love prevail. Are there any other fears you would add to our post? Share with us in the comments.

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