10 secrets to shield your marriage from divorce

Living with one person your whole life takes effort. Let the presenters of the program The Love School – A Escola do Amor, on Rede Record, Renato and Cristiane Cardoso say so. Married for 21 years and parents of an adopted son, they faced many problems in the beginning, when they moved to the USA. Mainly because they didn’t know each other well… “(He) would frown at me for days”, recalls Cristiane, in the book Casamento Blindado (Editora Thomas Nelson, 272 pages.), already in bookstores.

In addition to telling their own story and detailing the routine of a couple, in the work the authors give 27 tips so that, like them, you can overcome difficulties and strengthen your relationship. Roll up your sleeves and don’t lose faith, because there’s a lot of work ahead!

1. Always talk

Do not leave it for later! An open wound only gets worse over time. Talk until you can resolve what bothers you.

2. Filter the words

Talk, but never in the heat of emotion. Being nervous does not justify physically, verbally or emotionally attacking your partner.

3. Raise his self-esteem

Men feel appreciated when they receive a compliment. It makes him want to get closer to you. It’s also worth cooking something he likes and waiting for him to bathe and scented.

4. Fulfill his requests

Did he ask for something? Knife! Sometimes it’s something as simple as a razor blade. If he doesn’t abuse the requests too much, what’s the harm in putting them at the top of his list every now and then?

5. Don’t mix up problems

Don’t use any situation to define your husband’s character. Learn to deal with situations separately. Do not link a current problem with a past problem.

6. God helps

It’s no use just arguing or complaining (“Honey, you don’t pay attention to me!”). Pray, friend! Ask God to touch your husband’s heart and help you deal with the situation.

7. Know how to reveal

Often, the subject is not worth the time and effort of a discussion. So, release. When your husband wants to argue, let him drink some water, but keep it in his mouth for ten minutes before swallowing. Good, huh?

8. Avoid cross answers

A huge fight can break out just because one has given the other a cross answer. Instead of saying, “You’re rude!” say, “Honey, when you’re busy and I ask you something, sometimes the way you answer me makes me feel bad.” That detail makes a difference.

9. Take care of appearance

Marriage is not a license to become a baranga! After the “yes”, you have to maintain the climate of conquest. Likewise, you don’t want a disheveled guy on your side!

10. No fun joke!

Be careful what you say to your friends about your husband, huh?! Try not to expose his flaws and weaknesses. This can make your partner think that you consider him inferior!