10 clear signs that zero contact is working

For you to have made the decision to apply zero contact to a boy, a lot must have happened.

Maybe you got tired of the endless comings and goings. Or maybe you really liked this guy, but you were never quite clear with you.

It could also be that you were in a relationship and they decided to take a break, seeing that things were not going well.

For whatever reason, there are two main reasons why you have decided to opt for zero contact with him:

Because you really don’t want to know anything else and you’ve reached your limit As a last resort because you want to see if he has any real interest in you and if he will react to seeing you walk away

If number two is your chosen option, you are in the right place.

In this article I will tell you the 10 signs that zero contact is working to attract him and later we will see how to apply it well.

10 obvious signs when contact 0 is working

1) He is finally feeling that the breakup or separation is real

Sometimes breakups don’t really feel final.

Sometimes it may seem like they just took some time to think, but in reality things are still “the same” between them.

Or maybe for a while you were looking out for him or as friends and then things had changed but not completely.

But if you’ve finally decided to apply zero contact, a first sign that it’s working is when he starts to worry that the distance is serious.

When he first realizes what his life is like without you, he’ll probably realize how important your part was in it and start to get alarmed.

So, any statement he makes, wondering if this distance thing is serious, is a sign that zero contact is working.

Perhaps he will send you messages asking about your disappearance or contact a mutual friend to see if you are okay.

These are good signs that he cares about you and is noticing your absence.

2) You notice that you are more desirable in his eyes

The moment you made your absence felt, did you notice that you became more attractive to him?

This is another clear example that zero contact is working.

They probably don’t see each other anymore or at least not as frequently, but if you happen to pass him somewhere, you’ll notice that he can’t take his eyes off you.

And if it’s not in person, he’ll start leaving hearts all over your Instagram and social media posts, even those old photos he already knew but didn’t appreciate before.

What is the explanation for how distance makes you more attractive?

Well this is basic human psychology.

When we see that someone has discipline, has a “deep inner strength” (like when someone quits when they say so), we begin to respect that person.

They become superhuman in our eyes.

If your ex used to avoid you because you call him several times a week, and suddenly you stop, he would be curious.

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And we all know men as a little mystery. Anything they can’t understand, they find attractive.

So what makes you more attractive than being mysterious?

Self discipline. That deep inner strength and being able to manage your own emotions.

Most women let their emotions take over when they “try to fix things” with their partner and make irreparable mistakes.

That is why Samantha Sanderson, a relationship coach, has delved into the study of behavior and the psychology of relationships and has detected the 7 mistakes that you must avoid if you want your partner to return.

There is a fantastic video presentation on the internet that shows you exactly what you need to do to re-attract your man, make him PASSIONATE again…and make him want to give the relationship another try.

I leave the LINK here if you want to know more.

3) You feel better about yourself

Zero contact has two faces, one is the impact it will have on him and the other, but no less important, is what happens to you when you apply it.

The truth is that another way to know if zero contact is working is when you start to feel better about yourself.

The decision to cut off all communication with an ex usually stems from feeling stuck, codependent, or unable to move forward emotionally.

Breakups can leave us mired in a pit of insecurities and discontent with ourselves.

But if you have managed to pull yourself together and use the distance to regain your strength and what is good for you then he will notice.

Believe me. Starting to feel whole and happy again is a great sign that zero contact is working.

You will feel a renewed sense of meaning and self-confidence. You will be able to give yourself the self-love you deserve. And you will probably even discover new activities and passions that will occupy your time.

4) Now you have the power and control of the situation

It is possible that in the past you were the one who insisted on seeing him, who contacted him or made every effort to make things okay.

But once you decide to apply zero contact things change. And if all goes well, the roles are reversed.

You will know it is working because suddenly you will have the power. Instead of chasing him, he will be the one watching you, waiting for you to give him another chance.

Making the decision to cut all contact puts you in the shoes of someone who knows their worth.

Chasing someone you have lost and does not value you is not worthy, if so it is better to let it go. If you continue after him, you let him know that he has all the power to reject or accept you. He already expects that if he wants you back, you will give him your “yes” without hesitation.

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But when you start ignoring him, he’ll know that you’re willing to say no. And that means if he wants you back, he’s going to have to make sure he wins your respect and your heart back.

5) Seeks to generate some reaction in you

Whether through posts on social networks, calls, contacts with friends or friends, he will try to get you to react.

If you have applied zero contact well and he still cares about you, he will find a way to break that void.

Depending on what type of man you are, you could do it subtly or more directly.

He could send you a photo of him getting rid of something you gave him or saying that you let him down. The options are many, the important thing is that you do not let yourself be manipulated and hold your position.

That way he’ll know you’re serious.

6) Turn to others to hear from you

An ex who no longer cares about you will have no problem accepting zero contact and moving on.

But if there is still an opportunity for the two of you and you do not respond to his contact attempts, he will seek to hear from you anyway.

I could write to a friend of yours to see if you’re okay or to ask her to give you a message from her.

So if it keeps trying to communicate, even indirectly, that’s a sign that the zero contact is working.

7) He gets melancholic and nostalgic

When you don’t contact an ex, if there is still something to recover from the relationship, he will start to miss you and your absence will make him think about the good times you had together.

If he starts to reminisce about the good old days, sends you old photos from when you were together, or recalls anecdotes and moments, it’s another good sign that zero contact is working.

8) He’s genuinely concerned that you’re finally ready to move on

There are some exes that we never want to contact again. We don’t want to be called for a minute or even greeted on our birthday. But there are some exes that we keep with great affection.

If you still communicated with your ex and he always responded to you enthusiastically, or at least with respect, then most likely he will see you as the second case.

And if you start ignoring him after respectfully initiating a no contact rule, he’ll worry.

He’ll worry that you’re not the same loving person you were, and he’ll start thinking about the possibility that you might fall in love with someone else.

So if your ex suddenly wants to see you to find out how you’ve been, asks about your romantic situation or similar, it’s a sign that zero contact has worked.

9) A period of self-reflection has begun

When you have really distanced yourself from your ex, he will begin to go through a process of self-reflection in which he will ask himself questions such as:

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“What did I do wrong?” “Because I did not work?” “It’s my fault?” “What are the traits I need to work on?”

For most men, this usually doesn’t happen until they FEEL the loss.

So if you somehow know that he has started to question these points or wants to discuss them with you, that is another sign that zero contact is working.

10) Find a way to contact you and talk

If you have been strict, it will not be so easy for him to get in touch with you.

So if zero contact is working, he’ll do everything he can to talk to you.

He will become persistent and relentless and will eventually ask you to get together to talk.

And if what you were looking for was to make him react, this will be your prize.

He probably had time to think about everything that happened and realized what his life would really be like without you.

So, if he wants to talk to you, he probably wants you to talk together about this whole thing about being apart and whether it’s the best idea. Or maybe not?

How to apply zero contact effectively?

1) Timing is everything!

There is no hard and fast rule for how long you should apply zero contact.

But I think it’s important that you set a time parameter that’s comfortable for you.

If you’re looking to get your ex to react, it’s okay to try, but you can’t do it forever.

Define a period in which you will maintain zero contact with him while waiting for some type of action on his part. And at the same time be prepared to stop waiting for it after a certain time has passed.

If you get this process right and get your life back, you’ll probably naturally stop thinking about what he does or doesn’t do. In the end, what we are looking for here is that you feel full with or without it.

2) Leave things on good terms before you stop talking to him

The first piece of advice I mentioned is time, because it is very important.

Just like it’s important to make it clear that there’s still hope for you, but without seeming so desperate.

You know your ex boyfriend, so this shouldn’t be too complicated for you.

In one of their casual chats you will be able to find the right moment to say your line:

“I’m sorry, I thought I could handle being around you better, but it turns out I’m still in pain. Is it okay if we don’t make contact so I can finish my process?”

This will leave him thinking and he will have no choice but to accept it.