Your ex is not happy with his new partner: 15 tests

You never really want to know how well your ex is doing when they get into a new relationship, but you really can’t help but wonder.

Is he really as happy now as he once was with you, or is he having the same problems with his new girl that he had in his last relationship?

To unveil the mystery you must observe if you find any of the following 15 indications that your ex is unhappy with his new partner.

15 Obvious Signs Your Ex Isn’t Happy In A New Relationship

1) Your ex talks bad about your relationships

An unhappy ex is a bitter ex, and the last thing you want to see, when you’re in a terrible new relationship, is your ex-girlfriend in an amazing new relationship.

You never want to feel like the bad guy when you end a relationship. At best, you could say that it was a decision they both made, and that they both had their faults. At worst, you could blame your ex for causing all his trouble.

But if you see your new relationship falling apart, while your ex’s is thriving, then you can’t help but realize that the problem could be you. That’s why the last thing your ex wants to do is admit that you have a great new relationship.

He’ll act like your new guy is terrible, or like the two of you aren’t good for each other, for some reason.

He will find any excuse to criticize your new relationship, simply because he wants to believe that he is not the problem.

2) The new person he is dating is the complete opposite of you.

Let’s say you’re the quiet, introverted, smart, nerdy kind of girl.

And he enjoyed every second of being with you, until they started having problems.

But now that he is dating someone new, you have noticed that she is a girl who is the complete opposite of you. This woman is loud, outgoing, and to put it nicely, she’s not the sharpest girl in town.

So what is happening in the world? Did he suddenly change his taste in women?

It’s simple: he’s doing everything he can to forget about you, and that means dating someone who doesn’t remind him of his ex at all.

Even if it means forcing himself to pretend to like a completely different type of girl.

He would rather do this than continue to feel the pain of losing you.

3) Your ex keeps seeing you

You’ve really realized there’s no reason to see each other as much as they do, but they do it anyway. Your ex finds multiple (seemingly valid) reasons to see you.

From shared obligations, when they were together, to mutual friends meetings, that they can’t seem to skip. It still feels like you two are in a relationship.

And what is even more interesting is that he is always eager to see you alone. Your ex not only likes to see you, but he also finds ways to be alone with you in a room.

So what if you enjoy seeing your ex so often? Could it be that you also want to be with him again?

4) He still follows you on your social networks

The best thing about social networks is that you can always know when someone is following each thing you do.

He is the first to see your stories, and sees them more than once, and occasionally likes or comments on your posts as well.

Additionally, there are times when it looks like it’s reacting to your posts, while pretending it isn’t.

For example, post on Instagram that you went out with your friends or with a new man and that you are having a great time. A short time later, he’ll make the same kind of post, one in which it looks like he’s having an even better time.

But his forced “happiness” ends the moment he realizes that you don’t care what he’s doing.

5) You get calls when your ex gets drunk

Even the best of us can’t keep our emotions inside when we’re under the influence of alcohol.

So if your ex still misses you and loves to drown his feelings in alcohol, he’ll tell you about it. He’ll let you know when he’s weakest, lonely, frustrated, and drunk, on a weekend at four in the morning with a call.

So ask yourself: have you been woken up lately by several strange missed calls and texts from your ex, who sent you in the middle of the night?

If you ask him the next day, he may tell you that he called you on the phone or that he needed to ask you something unimportant.

But the truth is, her true feelings were itching to come out. He misses you and hates her new girlfriend, for the simple fact that she is not you.

6) Your relationship has gone from 0 to 100

Often when a long-term relationship ends, you’ll see one party jump right into another relationship.

And we often call this “rebound ratio.” A short-term fling, meant to help you forget about your last failed relationship.

But that next relationship can also turn into something else: Instead of just being a short-term fling, it can suddenly turn into the most serious relationship you’ve ever had.

So what does this mean?

If your ex’s next partner suddenly seems like their soul mate, even without having spent adequate time building this kind of serious relationship, it’s because they’re forcing it.

He’s going out of his way to pretend that he didn’t really need you or that you were the wrong person. Even if it means convincing themselves that they finally found their one true love in someone else.

But deep down, they know that this new relationship is little more than a fraud, and that it will eventually end. He just wants to forget you, before this new relationship breaks up.

7) She shares too much about her new “perfect” relationship.

If your ex’s relationship seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t. Suddenly, she has found “the right woman”.

Everywhere you look, your ex is there, bragging about the fairy tale ending, which he has always wanted.

The relationship is overwhelmingly perfect: the photos, the status updates, and even the anecdotes you hear from their friends.

They haven’t even known each other for that long, and yet it seems like they’ve fallen completely in love, flaws and all.

If your ex seems to be oversharing about his new relationship, consider the fact that he might also be oversharing for a reason. And maybe the relationship isn’t as amazing as he says…

Your ex knows it deep inside, and sharing too much could be your ex’s way of convincing himself that it’s something magical that it really isn’t.

8) Your ex is emotionally unavailable

Your ex doesn’t talk about the new relationship at all, almost as if the relationship didn’t exist in the first place.

He only mentions his new partner in passing, with the same enthusiasm with which he would describe a colleague at work.

Every time you or his friends try to ask him about the details, he’s not very interested in sharing. He just says things like: “She’s fine”, “We’re getting to know each other”, or “I like her”.

It doesn’t take a super genius to see that your ex isn’t too happy with their current relationship.

9) Your ex’s friends still have an eye on you

You’ve never been very close with your ex’s friends, so you’re surprised they still want contact with you.

People that you have only seen a couple of times in your life, usually in the presence of your ex, are still very interested in matters related to your personal life, especially your love life.

Deep down, you know that your ex’s friends are acting as spies.

They want to know what’s going on with you so they can let your ex know, without making it too obvious that he’s still very interested in what’s going on in your life.

10) Your ex fights a lot with his partner

Fights are normal in any relationship. Even the most compatible couples argue from time to time.

But something isn’t quite right with your ex’s new relationship: It’s almost too easy to see that all he does is fight with his new partner.

Every time you see him, he doesn’t seem very happy with his new girlfriend. The crossed arms, the evasive glances, the swollen chest. You know these attitudes in him very well, you have seen it all before, when they were dating and arguing. Especially the last time.

All it takes is one look to see that clearly: they are no good for each other.

Does that mean you have to do something? Not necessarily.

Your ex is no longer your partner. His problems with his new girl are private and he has nothing to do with you.

Before you go on a rescue mission, consider the fact that your ex may not see you as anything more than a friend, so it’s probably best to let them work it out. Unless there are obvious signs that she is looking to get back together with you.

11) He gets jealous when you’re with other guys

Whether you’re on a one-on-one date with a potential new boyfriend, or just partying or chilling with a group of girlfriends, if your ex knows and you see it, it’s obvious from a distance that they’re jealous.

If you were happy with your current partner, why would you be jealous of your ex?

It is clear that he is not very happy with his new relationship and he cannot hide it. Perhaps he has realized what he has lost by not being with you anymore and he is checking it out with his new girlfriend.

12) Your ex has lost the motivation to achieve his dreams

There may be no one more familiar with your ex’s intimate dreams and life goals than you.

These were things that the two of you talked about and shared for a long time, perhaps with the idea that one day you would achieve all of this together.

But now your ex has stopped working to achieve whatever kind of goal he wanted.

He parties all the time, drinks, smokes, and does drugs, and he doesn’t care about his career, his education, or anything else.

Your ex might think that they are living the best life they can with their new partner. But in truth you know he’s drowning in immediate gratification, because deep down, he’s more miserable than ever.

And the worst part? A path like this can only end in disaster. If he doesn’t recover and take back control of his life, he may never be “himself” again.

Clearly his new girlfriend is up to no good for him and is probably a bad influence.

If you are sure of this and you still care for him because of the story you lived together, you can approach his family and friends to convey your concern.

13) He has become a hermit

No one really knows what your ex has been up to, because he has disappeared off the face of the earth with his new woman.

He doesn’t go out or talk to anyone. If he was happy with his new partner, he would at least tell his closest friends and family.

Perhaps your ex is the type to suffer in silence, which is why he is totally withdrawn from the world around him.

The fact that your ex has completely isolated himself from the world is a pretty clear sign that he is suffering for you and is unable to consult with his new partner.

14) He continues…