You don’t need to prove anything to anyone

Trying to be the best or showing ourselves to be particularly superior in some aspect to the average is an unmistakable sign of insecurity.. Although no person needs to prove anything to anyone, there are those who think they do and act accordingly.

What leads us to try to prove something and justify ourselves to others is insecurity, especially when there is a great gap between how we see ourselves and how we want to be seen. Deep down what exists is a deep desire for others to validate us.. Therefore, instead of feeling that we do not need to prove anything to anyone, the opposite feeling invades us.

When this is so, We constantly compare ourselves to others and even we need to prove that we are better than them in some aspect. But what we get in the end is empty, falsified satisfaction.

If there is love, you don’t need to prove anything to anyone

The key to all this is found in self-love. Many believe that self-love is the same as pride, narcissism or arrogance. However, it is actually quite the opposite. How much more self love exists, the less will be the need to boast about being the best and despise others

Having self-love means feeling worthy of appreciation, respect and valuation, above any circumstance. This means that the feeling Our worth does not depend on something external or even on personal achievements, but on ourselves..

Self-love is essential and not circumstantial. Hence, when there is that feeling of appreciation for what one is, one never needs to prove anything to anyone. There is no competitive desire, nor the desire to awaken feelings of admiration or fear in others. Person she feels valuable just as she is, just for the fact of being and existing.

Being and proving to be, two different realities

Demonstrating something that you are not or that you are only partially, implies an enormous expenditure of emotional energy. The constant in these cases is the internal tension. From there to stress there is only one step. It is distressing to have to construct and maintain a kind of mask and then depend on the impact it has on others. to validate ourselves.

What is intended with this type of behavior is to prove something. That something could be that we are a certain kind of people (sociable, intelligent, etc.). Also We may try to prove that we actually experience certain feelings or thoughts (compassion, patriotism, love, etc.).

Of course, also There are cases in which one seeks to show that one is not something or one does not feel something.. For example when we want to prove that we do not feel fear and to do so we carry out reckless actions. Or when we want to show that we are not ignorant and we try to make it seem that way to others.

All of this is a consequence of not accepting oneself. Certain personal aspects are rejected for neurotic reasons. This means that the reasons that cause this rejection do not have to do with healthy reasoning, but with an illusory desire to “be others” to satisfy social, family mandates, etc. So although one never needs to prove anything to anyone, in those cases the opposite logic operates.

A matter of illusions

What is deep inside a person who is in charge of proving that he is something, that he feels something or that he can do something is an illusion. He unconsciously holds the illusory idea that by demonstrating it he will end up getting the approval of others. And, in turn, Such approval will help you achieve the feeling of personal worth that you so desperately need..

In practice, what happens is the opposite. The lack of authenticity becomes an obstacle both to learning to accept oneself and to being accepted. After all, masks always end up being revealed or disappearing.

Now, no person needs to prove anything to anyone. If there is that desire, it is because there is something inside that is cracked, broken or injured. The greatest test of confidence and personal strength is to be yourself. The excessive need for approval only leads to a vicious circle in which we feel less and less free and valuable.

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