Why some men LOSE INTEREST after 2 or 3 months of dating (and how to make him stay)

The beginning of dating is always very fun, romantic and exciting, but when it hits the two to three month mark, many women suddenly experience an attitude of less interest in dating on the part of some men.

In these situations, it feels like the dynamics of the still-new relationship are suddenly changing overnight, and it leaves you wondering what men want and what they’re thinking, with no real clue as to how to change things.

Keep scrolling and find out why some men LOSE INTEREST after 2 or 3 months of dating (and how to make him stay):

1. You are at different stages of the relationship.

Understanding relationship timelines is critical when you’re on the hunt for something serious. For the first 1-2 months, men are dating to see if they want to move forward with the relationship. Women, on the other hand, want to turn dating into a relationship right away, especially if they are in love with the guy. The 2-3 month mark is when he is likely to decide whether or not the relationship has potential.

Women tend to give up quickly at the beginning of a relationship. Men, on the other hand, generally take longer to decide if they want a relationship with someone, and when you don’t give them enough space, they feel pressured and ‘run away’.

This brings us to the next point…

2. You’re not giving him enough space to decide what he wants.

As we saw in the previous point, most men need time and space to decide what they want. Keep in mind that for the first 3 months he is still deciding whether this relationship should progress or not.

But if a woman insists on what we say too soon or makes plans about the future (without him agreeing to it), he’ll feel pressured to make you happy.

If he feels he can’t do it, he’ll run away.

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3. He has lost interest but is afraid to tell you.

Some guys just run away from confrontations. Some end up freezing you and becoming distant, just so you take the step of ending the relationship with him. You may never have an answer as to why he did it.

4. He is no longer in love as he used to be.

Passion attracts people, but what holds them together is emotional connection and shared values. But for that to happen, it takes a long time.

The passion cools but what stays forever are the values ​​and what you built together during the relationship. If he disappeared in those first few months, it means that, for him, all that mattered was passion and nothing else.

Here are some things you can do before a guy decides to walk away again:

1. Be careful not to invest too much too soon.

Some women (and also some men) are 100% dedicated to a relationship before it actually exists. They do whatever their partners want and end up disappointed when they are not reciprocated.

To avoid this, I always suggest matching the level of investment the other person has put into the relationship. It takes two to build a happy relationship, you shouldn’t build it alone.

2. Give him a safe space to express himself.

We often suppress what we really want to say because we are afraid of being judged. We men tend to fantasize about women because the thought of confrontation has filled our minds with scenes of them creating drama based on their disappointment, and no guy wants a woman to feel or act that way. They just want to be heard.

Let him know that you will really be okay and accept how he feels about your relationship as it progresses.

If you feel like a guy is pulling away, there are a few ways to talk to him about it:

Acknowledge the distance, but set things straight by saying something like, “I have a lot of fun with you, but I feel like you might have other priorities right now. I’d like to bring the fun back, but I’ll let you decide what happens next,” or you could go for something short and cheeky like, “I miss the weekly dinners we used to have…”

Any of these messages should provide him with enough notice for him to contact you and explain why he has been away.

Remember that no one can do the work for two people in a relationship.

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