Why can’t I find a stable partner?

It must be clear that each person is different, with their tastes, their way of being and customs, and therefore not everyone fits in the same with others. Plus, tastes can change. If the relationship ends because one of the two parties has stopped being in love, then there is little solution. However, there are a series of things that can be avoided to make your relationship as long-lasting as possible.

We are going to give you a series of notes that you should avoid both for a first date and for the relationshipalways knowing that you have to be yourself at all times.

Be a heartbreaker

If what you want is to look for a stable partner, you have to leave behind the stage of one for all and all for one. When you want a serious relationship, being with a different person every day doesn’t help. Of course you have to meet people, but if your thing is one-night stands or short dates it won’t give rise to more. Take the time to get to know the person, invest time in it. The only way to forge bonds is to get to know each other little by little, in one day you will not know who that person really is.

Talk only and only about you

You have to love yourself, but self-love is one thing and continuous praise is another. If you don’t let the other person talk, you won’t be able to know what they are like, what their tastes or hobbies are. You have to have a conversation in which you are both participatory.

In a relationship you also have to take care of this. You have your problems, but so does the other person. You have to know how to listen to each other and support each other.

Always be right

As we have said before, you have to know how to listen and this is very important in a discussion. You may be right but you should also listen to what the other person says because sometimes we make mistakes even if we are very sure that we are right. Always being right will only make the other person tired of not being valued or listened to.

I respect

It’s essential. You can’t form a couple with another person you don’t respect.

Self-esteem

As important as respect is one’s own self-esteem. A couple is based on two people and neither is above the other. You have to love yourself, have self-esteem and above all dignity. Don’t let them disrespect you or undervalue you. To have a healthy stable relationship, you have to know when to say yes and when to say no.

Being unloving

Affection is necessary in a couple, not only at the beginning. As time goes by, relationships lose fuel and we stop being so attached and it is a mistake. You have to always take care of the relationship.

Little communication

Communication is very important in a couple. Express feelings, share sorrows and joys. This helps the other person understand you in the best way possible. Lack of communication generates distrust. Of course, without falling into unnecessary interrogations that would be toxic.

Distrust

Trust is the basis of romantic relationships. It’s good to know how to worry about our partner, to know what to do or who he or she is with in case something happens, but that is one thing and another is doing your own police investigation. It ends up being a toxic and unhealthy relationship.

Being unclear or not saying what you think/feel

If you do not express your feelings clearly, it will cause distrust in your partner and we have already seen what this leads to.

Force the situation

When there is no feeling there is no feeling. If you are on a first date and you see that things are not working, do not force it, you can finish hanging out with that person but do not try to fall in love with someone by force because then it will not be real.

In the relationship, when one of the two parties stops being in love, it is best to leave it. Even if it is painful for the other person, you cannot be with someone out of compassion. The sooner the relationship ends, the sooner another person can arrive who is definitive.

Shyness

Shyness does not help at all when it comes to meeting people. If you are shy, think about the fact that the other person will most likely also feel insecure about their first date or the first time you meet, so it is best to leave shyness aside. In the following article you can see tips to be more sociable.

Not taking care of the relationship

Over time we believe that the relationship has become so strengthened and stable that no more is needed. As time goes by, stable couples form stronger bonds but it doesn’t mean that everything is done. A relationship must be taken care of like the first day or it could slowly fade away without us realizing it.

We have seen what things to avoid if you want to have a stable partner. Now let’s see What can you do if you are looking for it.

Socialize as much as you can

There is no better way to meet people than to socialize at all times. Going to events you are invited to or going out is a way to meet people. There are also groups for singles, widows or divorcees where activities such as excursions, visits to museums, etc. are carried out, and you can find like-minded people.

Out negativity

Being negative is not going to help you when it comes to finding a partner. Remember that everything comes sooner or later, so don’t think that you will never find love.

Increase your self-esteem

As we have seen before, self-esteem is a strong and key point. You have to know how to love yourself to be able to love another person and let yourself be loved.

Use the Internet

Nowadays the Internet is a very powerful tool for finding a partner. There are numerous apps you can use to search for love where you filter what you are looking for. It is a very good way to meet people, so don’t be afraid, more people use it today than you think. Who knows if your love is on the other side of the network? Check the following article to know how to flirt on the Internet.

Forget the past

The relationships we have had have marked us in our lives, but don’t get stuck in the past. You have to let go to be able to start a story again. If you don’t feel ready, it’s better to wait a while to look for love again.

Be patient

As the saying goes, “Palace affairs move slowly.” Be patient, things come sooner or later and it is best not to force the situation, as we have seen before. Don’t expect to meet someone overnight, you have to go little by little.

In the past, being single was something negative, you could say that the single person (man or woman) was single because they had some defect. The phrase “You’re going to stay to dress Santos” or this other one “You’re going to miss the rice” was heard a lot. Luckily, in the 21st century this has changed. There may still be some gaps, but most people understand that being single is not a problem. Today there are married, divorced, widowed or single people, each with their own story.

The most important is love yourself, and it may be a frequently repeated phrase, but it is the truth. In order to love another person, you must first love yourself, and this does not mean that you have an ego through the roof or that you are a narcissist, but that you love and respect yourself above all.

Have to know enjoy time alone and of oneself. Don’t be afraid of loneliness. Waiting for another person to arrive only makes us create a need that does not exist and that is to be in a relationship. This means that we look for people and end up with anyone who treats us well and has affection.

As we have said before, self-esteem is the most important thing. Toxic relationships arise from the need to be with another person, they make us dependent on others and can end very badly. So If you don’t have a partner, don’t worry., things come when they have to come and when you least expect it. And until then, enjoy.

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