When your worst enemy is yourself

Much of the time, the biggest saboteur of our plans and dreams is ourselves. Let’s learn how to put an end to this reality.

In many of our experiences we have felt mistreated and humiliated, something we think we have overcome when we really haven’t. When time passes, and this abuse disappears, we begin to exercise it against ourselves without being aware of it, becoming our worst enemy.

I must be good, humble, accommodating; because I think I’m worthless and I don’t deserve anything; because I consider it my duty although I will never be able to measure up.

This is when we must realize how we really are.. People with very low self-esteem, full of insecurities, frustrations, fears, guilt…

If it is very difficult for you to value yourself, accept yourself and recognize that you are capable of achieving and achieving everything that others have already achieved and achieved, you are probably becoming your own enemy.

You can choose to be your worst enemy or not.

Your worst enemy is not others, but everything is in your mind. How can this be possible? How can I be my own enemy? All the criticism you may receive, the humiliations, the opinions, the judgments that are made about you… All of this may or may not be accepted by you.

“Your worst enemy is not the criticism you receive but the criticism you accept”

-Bernardo Stamateas-

That power of decision is in you. Do you really think you deserve it? Do you agree with what others say? Assuming something for the simple fact of being accepted by others, causes you a low self-esteem and that you are your own enemy.

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It is true that Being surrounded by diverse opinions makes you doubt who you really are.. Therefore, it is necessary that you separate yourself from all these people to be able to reflect on who you are. Once you know this, you will be able to face all those opinions and judgments in a much safer way.

How can I start to stop being my worst enemy?

Accept yourself and be sure of who you really are. Question every negative message that comes about you.Learn to make mistakes.Don’t try to please everyone.

It is difficult to begin to stop being your own enemy, but this is something that is only in your hands. You must be sure of who you are and not let the opinions of others tell you who you should be.

You have to start seeing mistakes not as a burden and shame, but as something you learn from to do better later.

Everyone makes mistakes, but that makes you feel humiliated. Start to think that there is no learning without mistakes. You learn more from mistakes than you think.

Who I am?

This is a very simple question, but really difficult to answer.. Know who are you really? If so, why do others’ criticism affect you so much?

You must learn not to compare yourself with others, to trust yourself and not get carried away by what others may say. You are unique, unrepeatable, irreplaceable, with defects, but also with abilities.

“Do you really know where your enemies are? In the world around you or inside you? Who are you listening to? To the voice of obsession that speaks to you of doom and failure? To the complaining and authoritarian voice that judges every step you take?

-Bernardo Stamateas-

Be confident, believe in yourself and Don’t allow yourself to be how others want you to be.. Being yourself will help you achieve the happiness we all long for.

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Your decisions are what will mark your life from today onwards. Who is going to decide in your life? You or the others? Be a little selfish with yourself and stay away from what people will say. Your life is yours, and you will decide how to live it.

Think that the confidence you have in yourself will allow you to move forward, try, experiment. While If you don’t have confidence in yourself, insecurities will appear. Ask yourself where you are leading your life. Do you want to become so perfect that it ends up with you? The answer is not in perfection.

Be natural, try to progress, make mistakes, learn and live as you are. Free yourself from everything they tell you, that blocks you and paralyzes you. Be free of all this and walk. Never allow yourself to be your own enemy.