When I know what I deserve, the world gives me what I need

We will begin by proposing a small reflection… What do you think you deserve today? You may have thought about a break. In allowing time to pass a little more slowly so that you can appreciate everything that surrounds you. Enjoy the “here and now”, without stress, without anxiety.

You may have also thought ““You deserve someone who loves you.”, that they recognize you a little more. You tend to work hard for others and they don’t always see everything you have given up.

We all, deep inside, know what we deserve. However, recognizing it is something that is sometimes difficult for us because we think it can be a selfish attitude.

How to say out loud things like “I need to be loved”, “I deserve to be respected”, “I deserve to have freedom and be in control of my life”? In reality, it is enough to say it to ourselves.

We must not be mistaken, because prioritizing ourselves a little more is not a selfish attitude, andIt’s a vital necessity, is being able to grow internally to be happy. We invite you to reflect with us.

The limiting attitudes

Many of us tend to develop many limiting attitudes throughout our lives. They are beliefs sometimes instilled during our childhood, or even developed later based on certain experiences. They are those thoughts expressed in phrases like “I’m not worth anything”, “I’m not capable of doing that, I will fail”, “Why try if things always go wrong?”…

A complicated childhood with parents who never gave us security, or even emotional relationships based on emotional manipulation, tend to limit us almost in a decisive way. We become fragile inside and little by little, fraying our self-esteem.

Restructure your beliefs. You are more than your experiences, you are not the one who hurt you or the one who built walls to deprive you of your freedom. You deserve to move forward, you deserve to read inside yourself and recognize your worth, your ability to be “fit” in life and above all, happy…

What you deserve, what you need

What we deserve and what we need are as linked as the link in a chain. We will give you an example: “I need someone who loves me.” It is a common desire. However, we will start by changing the word “I NEED” to “I DESERVE”.

You deserve someone who knows how to read your sadness, someone who listens to your words, who knows how to decipher your fears and be the echo of your laughter. Why not? By changing the word need by deserve, We eliminate that toxic attachment bond that we sometimes develop in our emotional relationships.

Start with yourself. Be the person you would like to have by your side… The one who deserves to walk the steps of your life. In the end, someone will come who will reflect on you. However, it also starts with these important dimensions:

Free yourself from your fears.Enjoy your solitude, learn to read inside yourself, to empathize more with yourself as well as with others.Cultivate your personal growthenjoy your present, what you are and how you are. Learn to be happy with humility, deactivating the ego, maturing emotionally.

Prioritizing yourself is not being selfish

Many times we continue to be prisoners of those limiting thoughts explained at the beginning. There are those who find their happiness by giving everything for others: caring, attending, giving up certain things for others. It is possible that we were educated that way. Now, there always comes a time when we take stock and something goes wrong. Emptiness, frustration, emotional pain appear…

Like everything in this life, there is harmony, the conjunction of your space and my space, of your needs and our needs. Life as a family, as a couple or in any social context must be built through an adequate balance where everyone wins and no one loses.

The moment there are losses, we stop having control of our life, We stop being protagonists to become supporting actors.

Reflect for a moment on these brief ideas:

I deserve a day of rest, for myself, in solitude. This will offer me what I need: to think, release stress and put things into perspective.I deserve to be happymaybe it is time to “let go” of certain people, or aspects of my life. This will allow me to get what I need: a new opportunity.

We all deserve to stop being captives of suffering, of our own limiting attitudes. Open your eyes to your interior, decipher your needs, listen to your voice. The moment you allow yourself what you deserve, what you need will come.

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