What to do when your partner treats you badly?

You love your partner, but lately he hasn’t stopped mistreating you. He constantly gets angry, criticizes you, and according to him, you do not do anything right. You feel anxious and you don’t know what to do.

First, what you must be clear about is that the most important thing is to ensure your well-being. No matter how much you love a person, if they treat you badly, it is not right, nor is it what you deserve.

And what to do when your partner treats you badly? Talk, set precise limits, seek support from your loved ones and if there is violence, seek to end the relationship safely. Next, we will see each of these points in detail. Additionally, I will tell you what are the most common reasons why your partner can speak badly to you.

How should I react if my partner makes me feel bad?

If your partner treats you badly, it is important to take certain steps to stop him from doing it. Some things can be:

Talk to your partner about what is happening and try to reach an agreement to improve the situation. You should do this when both are calm and not in the middle of a situation in which they are upset. Actively listen to your partner and ask him to work on doing the same, to come up with a solution that you both feel good about. Set clear limits with your partner and let them know that you are not willing to tolerate any kind of abuse. Cordially explain to him that there are essential things that must exist in the couple, such as respect and care for the other. Otherwise, the foundations of a relationship do not exist and it ceases to be loving. Seek support from your friends and family. Your loved ones know you well and can suggest how you can best function as you. You may also consider joining a support group, for people who are going through a similar situation. This will make you feel stronger not to allow abuse from your partner. If the situation does not improve or worsens, consider taking legal action to protect yourself and your family. Perhaps you have done everything you could, but nothing has improved, so it is time to set the limits through other paths. Also, if you have children, it is preferable to do this, than to live in the middle of hell. It can affect children deeply and for a lifetime to see their parents get along really badly. It is preferable to end the relationship and live calmly. If the relationship is violent, consider getting out of it as soon as possible. Domestic violence is not acceptable under any circumstances and there are resources to help you get out of it safely. If you don’t know where to start, ask the people closest to you how you can do it. You can also find information on how to protect yourself on the internet, where you will find telephone numbers to contact people to tell them about your situation and they will guide you to get out of it.

Why does my partner speak badly to me?

There are several reasons why he could be talking down to you. Some of them are:

1) Communication problems

If your partner doesn’t feel heard or understood, they may react negatively or aggressively, rather than communicate what’s going on. This is a failure to handle the situation. You have to be careful how you let him know.

2) Mental health problems

If your partner has mental health problems, such as depression or anxiety, it could be affecting their behavior and the way they deal with you. In many of these cases, the other part of the relationship does not know what to do. It is then that it is best to go to a professional, to help both of you to go through your case, until you reach a better relationship.

3) Problems in the relationship

If your partner is dissatisfied or angry with the relationship, they may be taking their frustration out on you. Many times men find it difficult to express their feelings and instead of communicating, they act in a bad way, pretending that the other party “guess” why it is wrong. If you notice a bad behavior, you should always ask them to tell you what is happening, to understand each other and to improve the relationship they have.

4) Problems at work or in other areas of life

If your partner is having a difficult time at work or in other areas of their life, they could be suffering from stress. Being in that state, everything annoys and irritates him and he could release that tension by mistreating you.

5) Personality issues

If your partner has a personality disorder, they may have difficulty controlling their emotions and behaving appropriately. Perhaps he may have a difficult family past that has affected him and causes him to treat you in a way that is not correct.

Final thoughts

When your partner mistreats you, you must understand that this is not normal and not okay in a relationship. To improve his situation, you can go talk to him to convey everything that happens to you and listen with all your attention to your partner, to see how they can solve what happens to them. Setting precise boundaries is key. Seek professional help or that of your loved ones, if your situation does not improve. If there is violence, the best thing you can do is walk away from the relationship and start a new life.

It is important to keep in mind that none of the reasons why your partner treats you badly justifies it. It is important to talk to him and let him know what things you will not allow, to protect your person. If the situation does not improve or worsens, it is important to consider whether you need to go to court. This is preferable to reaching a much more serious situation that you may regret or even be irreversible, such as psychologically affecting you and your family.