What to do when a man walks away: 3 quick and easy ways to avoid it –

Do you want to know what the worst thing is about a man starting to pull away and become distant?

It’s not the pain, it’s not the fear. It’s not the terrible hopelessness of losing him.

In reality, most of the time, a woman’s reaction when she realizes that the man she loves is distancing himself will only make him move further and further away from her.

The typical reaction of most women to a situation as difficult as this is precisely what makes it worse. And the one that makes the man realize his intentions to move away definitively.

This reaction will almost always only push you further away and damage the relationship in a way that can no longer be recovered.

Because when you meet a guy with whom you truly feel compatible and who you like and are excited about in a special way, and you also feel that the feeling is mutual, let’s face it, you feel on top of the world.

He may be giving you tons of attention and signs that make you have high hopes for a great long-term relationship. So you’re probably already making plans for the future because there’s nothing to tell you that things could go wrong.

But suddenly, small signs appear that at first you try to ignore but that plunge you into a whirlwind of anxiety and doubts. Maybe he doesn’t respond to your messages as quickly, or he’s been making excuses for several days not to go out with you, or he’s not as affectionate as always.

Have you been emotionally distant lately?

There are several possible answers for how you are experiencing it:

A) Yes, he’s definitely been distant, and it makes me feel really bad when I remember how sweet he used to be.

B) No, he behaves exactly the same way he has always behaved towards me, but it feels “strange”.

C) I’m not sure, because we don’t spend much time together.

D) His actions make me suspect that he is seeing someone else because he avoids me and does not respond in the same way.

All of the above are red flags. Everything was going so well! but then, something happens, something that you don’t feel is under your control at all.

He stops calling you with the same frequency and each time he pushes you a little further and further away. He resists making short- or long-term plans and stops being so affectionate with others.

There is only one way to feel when this happens and that way is terrible! You feel like it’s your fault, sure, but you have no idea what you’ve done wrong.

For most women, the first instinct that appears in situations like this is to try to fix things by getting closer, physically and emotionally, to their man, however they can. This usually starts with the typical question of What do you have? or “I feel like you have changed.”

Then they start calling him much more often and worrying about the relationship. And that, for a man who for one reason or another needs distance, is very annoying.

The problem is that these types of reactions, as a whole, always push the loved one further away and deeply damage the relationship. They even cause it to be lost completely.

This is going to sound like a paradox, but the reality is that the best way to make him stop pulling away or attract you back is to stop actively trying. So stop! stop doing whatever you’re doing to get it back and keep reading.

If you invest all your efforts doing those things that you think will bring him back, mistake! It’s just what he doesn’t want you to do.

It sounds completely counterintuitive, we know, but the only way to get him back is to have him come back on his own, without him feeling pressured in any way. Remember, they always have to believe that “it was their idea.”

So, with that in mind, here are three general steps so you can give him the space he needs to finally return to your arms happily, and not die of anxiety and fear of losing him in the entire process.

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1.- Calm down and realize that the fact that he walks away is completely natural

Even if a man is totally, absolutely and honestly in love with you, it is natural that sometimes, in their manly search for autonomy, they need to step away for a moment to see things objectively and analyze the direction of the relationship.

This is because most men are afraid of loving someone so much that they become vulnerable. And there is nothing that makes them feel more vulnerable than falling in love.

Men take a step back and fight internally when faced with a commitment scenario. Deep down, they feel the same need to distance themselves and stay close, but the vulnerability they feel usually makes them choose the former.

But little by little, with time and some space to think without ties or pressure, they put their feelings in order.

They recompose themselves emotionally and return on their own feet with greater openness to the relationship. I repeat… as long as they have enough space to think without pressure.

That is why it is so important that you manage to remind yourself at all times that if at any point, especially when things are going “too” well, he begins to distance himself, it is something completely natural.

If things are destined to go well for the two of you, he will begin to act less and less distant and the relationship will continue its course harmoniously.

He will always need some “own space” because that’s how men are, and, let’s face it, all human beings require some autonomy. But it will become less and less frequent.

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2.- Give him a desire or a need to get him closer again

As I said before, for most men, when they distance themselves it means that the seriousness of the relationship is scaring them and they need some objectivity to put themselves back together. They almost always come back if not pressured.

And why do we get the opposite by actively trying to eliminate that distance? Well, because when a woman tries to get closer to a man who is distancing himself, he can’t find the space she needs to see things from afar.

You will feel even more vulnerable and withdraw to the point where you no longer feel interested or able to return.

She takes options out of his hands, and in some cases, makes him feel trapped and consider that the only way out is goodbye forever.

By chasing him, the only thing you really achieve is to push him further away, since you are ruining his need to feel independent in order to return to your side later with more conviction.

So, when you don’t allow him to take this healthy distance, what is not going to happen is for him to resign himself and return to your arms; He is going to look for her however he wants and he is going to go away as long as he needs.

That distance will be directly proportional to your efforts. And you can end up in a vicious cycle that won’t last long, but will end badly.

Here is the way for you to prevent this from happening:

a) Just don’t chase him or try to force him closer when you feel him starting to move away. Don’t rack your brains trying to find the reasons why he distances himself because, as we already told you, it’s natural.

b) Don’t harass him with questions or with calls or text messages one after the other. Give him space. Don’t even think about showing up casually at their house or work.

Remember that he has to come to the conclusion that he wants to be with you completely on his own. He has to miss you and start needing you in his life again to realize that he wants to be with you.

You’re not going to make him feel like he needs you if you don’t move away a little too.

Instead, let him naturally begin to feel your absence. This involves giving him space, letting him distance himself from the relationship a little so that he can gain perspective that he is better off with you than without you.

Boys naturally oscillate between their need for intimacy and their need for independence. For some girls this may be difficult to accept, but the best way to ensure things work is to know this cycle and give it what it needs at each stage.

It is not possible to guess the exact reason why he is starting to pull away. But we’ll tell you something: It’s not necessary. What is possible and essential is that you give him the space for which he is fighting.

c) You have to let him make the choice to return, instead of trying to force him. If you do it correctly, it will be much easier for him to return with a renewed and lasting intention of real commitment.

Also, as an additional point in your favor, you have the fact that men are so used to being pressured in these situations, that if you distance yourself it will be a novelty that they will greatly value.

You will act completely different from what he expects and that is why you will once again generate a sense of need, curiosity and respect towards yourself.

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3.- Communicate your feelings assertively

It’s easy to feel angry or desperate when the man you’ve pinned all your romantic hopes on starts to walk away for no apparent reason.

Many women believe that letting their man know how bad they feel that he is distancing himself will make him come back. But it does not work. On the contrary, it can make you look needy and even somewhat pathetic.

You can express your feelings in other, more appropriate ways that won’t push him further away. You have to be able to express yourself with words and calmly. Not with passive aggressive search and blackmail actions.

Furthermore, you have to avoid at all costs trying to make him feel guilty by putting yourself in the role of victim if you don’t want him to lose much of the respect he has for you.

For example, don’t attack him with questions like where have you been? Who did you go out with? why have not you called me? Instead, you can say things like “I’m glad to hear from you” or “I’m glad you called, I was just starting to miss you.”

The point is that you stay away from negative comments and instead give him positive feedback that motivates him to stay by your side. Men like positive and confident women.

Also, if you don’t harass him with your anger or your need to make him feel guilty, he will see that you have things under control and by feeling that it doesn’t affect you as much, his pride will naturally sting.

With your actions, you will tell him not only that you understand what he needs, but that you have your own life in which he is free to integrate or not, but that you are not going to be dependent on him all the time.

As long as you stay positive, happy and secure, he will have less reason to keep pulling away and he will eventually make the decision for himself that he wants to be with you permanently.

Eventually, not pressuring him can be one of the most important steps for you to get a real long-term relationship.

So now you know. The most important thing is to resist that first impulse that prompts you to harass him with questions and requests for attention.

Maintain your composure, give him the space he needs, stay positive and above…