To love is to care: that simple, that profound

To love is to care, to commit to the well-being of others. Excuses and sloppiness break bonds, but care strengthens them. What option are you going to take?

To love is to care. It’s simple, there is no love that is based on carelessness. In fact, there is nothing that characterizes the thoughts of a lover more than taking care of her partner. Doing so means maintaining the small details, valuing those we have next to her and making them feel special, listened to and loved.

It may seem very obvious to us, but the reality is that The first thing we usually abandon is precisely that: care. We know the theory perfectly, we know that we have to conquer each day or that we must keep our attention on our partner or the person we love.

However, when it comes to putting this habit of daily care into practice, we tend to err on the side of disinterest and end up damaging our relationship with attitudes of indifference or procrastination, that is, postponing small details.

To love is to care for and water love every day, so that it does not wither and end up dying due to laziness and postponement of details.

Love will last as long as you take care of it and you will take care of it as long as you want it.

Sometimes we do with love what a child does with his balloon. That is to say, sometimes we ignore what we have and then cry for what we lose. That expression made of “We do not know what we have until we lose it”.

If we do not insist on taking care of our relationships, we risk losing our hope. and the desire to maintain an affection or a bond that, we suppose, makes us happy. We think that our partner or the people around us have the obligation to wait for us, to put up with us or to understand us above all.

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But the truth is that we can tolerate anything except our needs being in check. With this idea we end up submitting and submitting, creating or feeding unhealthy vicious circles that deteriorate the feelings that should have been cared for.

“In the end you realize that the small is always more important. The conversations at three in the morning, the spontaneous smiles, the disastrous photos that make you laugh out loud, the ten-word poems that bring a tear to your eye. The books that no one else knows about and become your favorites, a flower that you put in your hair, a coffee that you drink alone… That is what is truly worth it; “The tiny things that cause gigantic emotions”

-Between letters and caffeine-

The excuses that feed laziness

We usually make excuses in the little time we have, but the truth is that What often deteriorates our relationships is inertia, habits and custom; that is, routine. Thus, what a priori would not have to be negative if we handle it properly, ends up being destructive.

How do we stop taking care of those we love? Not feeding the daily smiles, covering our eyes and failing to perceive reciprocity. This ends up diminishing the light that love brought to our lives and everything becomes much more superficial. So we forget that loving is caring.

Then what fueled “the special” goes out, we stop feeling loved and part of our relationship begins to fail. Thus, the absence of signs of interest and gratitude ends up generating doubts in a couple and the union turns into disunity.

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To love is to care in all aspects

Now, caring for others is not something superficial or something we can dedicate ourselves to when we have the time and desire. Is a a matter of perseverance and commitment to the well-being of others. Thus, we must offer care in several aspects:

Caring about the health and well-being of others. Encourage him to adopt good lifestyle habits, help him see with love his areas of improvement and work on them and offer him support when his strength (physical or mental) falters.Take care of your emotions, although for this we have to put aside the ego. We have to listen to what our partner has to say; If you feel sad, angry or disappointed, we must provide a space for expression and validate your emotions, recognize them and take responsibility for our responsibility in this regard.Ensure that communication between both is fluid, honest and frequent. May it be full of love and free of disrespect. Always seek understanding and negotiation and flee from selfishness.Feed love every day with small gestures and details that show how much we care about each other and the gratitude we feel for having them close.

There are no eternal loves, there are well-cared for loves

There is no universal recipe to protect our love, but we can do our best to ensure that at least neglect is not what deteriorates it. Because there are no loves that are eternal in themselves, loving is caring and that is what we have to do.

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Thus, the fundamental pillars of a lasting relationship are: admiration, the conception of the couple as a team, deep knowledge of the other, learning in the face of difficulties and the joint search for solutions to problems and the sharing of goals. disagreements and encounters.

It is, therefore, about working on the ability to understand, accept and care for ourselves. Because at the end of the day, loving is caring, something simple and profound at the same time.

Illustrations: Puuung