I like people who don’t brag and who surprise with their actions.

I like people like that, humble at heart, with a mischievous smile and a kind heart. who surprises me every day with his actions. They are people who speak and comply, who do not boast, who do not understand exalted egos or camouflaged falsehoods. I adore those magical people camouflaged as normal.

And who wouldn’t? However, we know well that these types of personalities can barely be counted on the fingers of one hand. We live in an individualistic and increasingly externally oriented society.where certain exhibitionist behaviors and grandiose excesses are common where the dependence on being admired almost at every moment exhausts and suffocates.

“If people are good only because they fear punishment and expect a reward, then we are a sorry bunch.”

-Albert Einstein-

Paul-Claude Racamier, famous French psychoanalyst, coined the term “narcissistic pervert” many years ago. It would undoubtedly be the most extreme version of this profile. They are people who live not only focused on their own infallibility and perfection, but also exercise persistent moral harassment with which to humiliate others to further aggrandize themselves.

Living subject to this type of dynamics ends up destroying our mental health. It is necessary to make a change in our daily relationships. We must find them, find those people who do not focus their lives on the gallery, but on that discreet and privileged corner from where one understands, accommodates with wisdom and respects others.

People who boast and people who comfort you

A common trait of the chronic narcissist is his tendency to make promises and pie in the sky that he later fails to keep. They are addicted to using the personal pronoun “I” at the head of each sentence, they make grains of sand into royal cathedrals and stand as arrogant architects of their all-powerful universes. They know everything, they have seen everything and they have experienced everything and if they have not, they invent it through a patina of suitable glamour.

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However, The most curious thing about this type of personality is that we identify them almost instantly. Lies have short legs and vanity has very bulging eyes. However, sometimes, even seeing from afar their multiple shortcomings and the voids inhabited by cobwebs in their hearts, it is not so easy to defend ourselves. It is not easy to live with a chronic narcissist if that figure is the father, mother or one’s own partner.

According to an article published in the scientific journal “PsychCentral” there is an essential aspect that can heal and comfort a person who has just experienced an emotional relationship with a profile of these characteristics. It is feeling that there are still altruistic people, beings who are capable of surprising those they love without expecting anything in return. Because good people, beyond what it may seem, are not in danger of extinction.

What happens is that They are discreet, they don’t make noise, they don’t want an audience, they speak just enough and know how to act at the right moment.

To this day, humility continues to surprise us

The sharpest ego is the germ that lives in those walls where many are isolated in their vast peninsulas of solitude. We all know someone close to us who wears that modern mask where, as an expression of Greek theater, pride and the need for attention are inscribed to know that they are someone.

Perhaps for this reason, having become so accustomed to individuality strangely combined with the need for attention, we continue to be so surprised by humble acts or even more so by someone carrying out an action just to see others happy.

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When a stranger does something spontaneously for another person, we almost instantly wonder what guided them to do that action. Likewise, when a friend surprises us with a detail, with a favor or with a beautiful action, we often respond with that “I will pay you back or I am in your debt.”.

Many of us have the principle of reciprocity integrated into the depths of our being.. However, it would also be appropriate to accept these acts with complete openness without obsessing over what we should or should not do in the future. It’s just about appreciating that moment, that generous and selfless act that seeks nothing more than to give us happiness.

In fact, Those magical people disguised as normal do not expect anything in return.. Because what is done from the heart does not expect rewards, the greatest tribute is knowing that your action has brought a smile, has comforted us and planted within us that trust in human beings that we should never lose.

We know that there are many people who need a whole gallery to be someone, that false appearances grow like weeds. However, behind the need for attention the only thing that is found is loneliness and a deep emotional immaturity. Let us then learn to be self-sufficient, to not need anyone to know who we are and what we are worth to others. thus being able to give the best of oneself to others in a selfless way.