Thinking a lot about memories means living too little.

To live off of memories is to limit oneself, because those who in some way do not enjoy everyday life are not taking advantage of their present, their moment to experience… Because Life is not about remembering but about acting. It is not going backwards but forwards. Nor be trapped between the past and the future, as if the here and now did not exist.

Remembering is an inherent part of life and is often inevitable, whether for better or worse. In a way, Memories are a way to hold on to what we love, to who we are and what we do not want to lose. That which marked us deeply.

However, Memories are deceptive because they are colored with present events and the traps of memory. The difference between false memories and true ones is the same as that between jewels: it is always the false ones that seem the most real, the most brilliant.

The Spanish writer, screenwriter and film director Ray Loriga said in his book Tokyo doesn’t love us anymore something that scientists have been warning for some time: “Memory is the dumbest dog, you throw a stick at it and it gives you anything back.”

Life would be impossible if everything was remembered

In an interview, Albert Einstein was asked what he did when he had a new idea. For example, if he wrote it down on a piece of paper or in a special notebook. The scientist answered forcefully; “When I have a new idea, I don’t forget it.” Nothing more certain, When something excites us so much it is almost impossible to forget it.

Thus, we remember what is truly important, what is capable of moving us, because it activates in us the necessary brain regions and connections that will help save that memory. The problem is that what should be forgotten also tends to be intensely stored in our mind. Nothing fixes a memory as intensely as the desire to lose it.

Psychology warns us that forgetting is necessary to save relevant memories. After all, it is possible that the dog of memory is not so stupid and, in reality, brings anything and not the stick we threw, because that is what deep down we want to recover.

Memories are the perfume that lasts

Pleasure is the flower that blooms when we live, act and do. With them, we build our memory every day, which will be the perfume that will last. The happiest memories are the moments that ended when they should, without stretching them out in time, without lengthening them too much…

Therefore, we don’t remember days, we remember moments. Therefore, we must produce new situations again and again. The richness of life lies in the memories we continue to form. Constantly acting can be difficult, especially if we are leveraged in our comfort zone. However, it is necessary to do so to live intensely.

Despite having a tangible physical body and perceiving the world around us with all our senses, We usually live in our minds. However, a decision needs to be made. We can spend our lives remembering past events and how they made us feel. Or, on the contrary, we can take charge of our experiences and of course, our emotions. Only if we do so, will we be able to enjoy our existence.

The key to living more than remembering is to think, imagine and hope less. Accept what there is and nothing more. Live in the moment, without letting ourselves be distracted by the traps of our mind.

And, in general, we are always preparing to live but we are never living. However, life should work just the other way around.

Happiness is not in another place but in this place, not in another hour, but in this hour. Do not forget.

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