There are times when we give everything and nothing is valued

When everything is given, the people around you begin to normalize it and stop valuing it. It is important to find balance.

We move in a world in which customs weigh on us like obligations. Who more and who less at some point in their life has felt that what they did because they wanted to, became an imposition. It is at that moment that we give it and nothing is valued, because it is taken for granted.

Generally, they force us and force us to do something without being too explicit. In other words, in some way it ends up being understood that others expect something from us and that it is up to us to do it.

In any case, The truth is that when we give everything, nothing ends up being valued. This, in fact, contrasts with what happens with those who do little, since they value that minimum more than we value a maximum.

The importance of marking our value

“Everyone freely rates himself high or low, and no one is worth anything but what he makes himself worth; Therefore, rate yourself as free or as a slave: this depends on you.”

-Epictetus-

There are people to whom we give everything we have, but they never have enough. Whatever it is, when we stop giving them what they think they need or they have that perception, they accuse us of being selfish and insist that we don’t care about them.

In this sense, it is worth highlighting that not These types of attitudes are always based on selfishnessbut they can also do so in confusion and in a lack of skills and dedication. That is, we have to keep in mind that giving everything can put a burden on the other, since they may feel that they will never be able to compensate.

This sometimes causes people to get angry, leave, or not know how to act.

So, whatever happens, The important thing is to behave in moderation and not give too much to others. As we have mentioned, in some way, we ourselves set our price, so we must be especially cautious when giving ourselves to others.

What to do when we give everything and nothing is valued

“Get rid of those who doubt you, join those who value you, free yourself from those who hinder you and love those who support you.”

-Paulo Coelho-

If we want to be free we have to get rid of the selfishness that subjects us. That is to say, because someone we appreciate expects something from us, we don’t have to do it.

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First of all, We have to unlearn that sacrifice makes us better or more valid people. Behaving in this way makes us despise or neglect an emotional and physical part of us that is very valuable to be happy.

On the other hand, we must be clear that someone who intentionally hurts us and demands something from us does not deserve that we continue by his side or that we offer our devotion. That is to say, We have to stop putting up with this and open the window of goodbye. Achieving it will make us strong.

It is natural that once we have analyzed the problem we feel upset or hurt. In this sense, we must maintain our concentration on being constructive and not punishing others, but above all ourselves.

We have the right to be respected and valued

Getting rid of abusers starts with small things, so you can communicate your needs without feeling guilty for giving up on the needs of others. To do this you don’t need to be aggressive, but rather persistent and assertive.

First of all, speak in the first person and start the assertive dialogue with phrases like “there are situations that make me feel disrespected,” instead of “you don’t value me.”

Working on this feeling requires that we value ourselves first so that others do the same. This will help us reject abusive requests that do not bring us any good, since we will have clear ideas about what makes us feel good and what does not. Always keep in mind that the right to feel respected is yours and you have to work to ensure that no one steals your ability to feel your worth and the recognition you deserve.