There are relationships that waste our time

There are people who waste our time, something very precious that we only value at critical moments in our lives. To waste time is to lose something that will never return. Each of us, on average, has about 27,000 days to live. You have to subtract a third for sleep and another part for those first years that you don’t remember.

Why do we get involved in relationships that waste our time? Why do we share minutes, days or years with people who do not contribute to us? Answering this is extremely complex and, of course, it is necessary to analyze each personal story to give it meaning.

However, it should be noted that We do not embark on insipid or time-wasting relationships just because. It is not about being a selfish person, but it is healthy in your behaviors, in your relationships. Being able to give love and be loved, when they waste our time, let’s not miss the opportunity to take advantage of it with another person.

Wasting time with someone is suffering more than enjoying

There are people who now waste your time and perhaps one day filled it with joy. Knowing that life is change and full of cycles is accepting it and living it. It makes you end unnecessary agonies long before everything is too rotten.

Because, Although we often want to keep up appearances, feelings do not fail or deceive. And accumulated feelings of frustration and disappointment in a relationship already become a negative state of mind towards the other person. In a motor inability to give caresses or hugs. In a lack of ability to give compliments and receive them and, even, in a hidden search for your best smile, because it never comes spontaneously anymore.

Relationships require maintenance, but There is a difference between maintaining a good relationship and trying to force a bad one that doesn’t make much sense. When you are already fundamentally incompatible with someone, you risk wasting too much valuable time.

Every relationship you encounter in your life will have served a different purpose: some will bring out the best in you, others the worst, and most will leave you indifferent. The important thing is that this does not limit your ideas about relationships and prevent you from keeping your heart open.

That relationship didn’t always waste your time

If there is something difficult in human relationships, it is knowing when to withdraw from certain company.when to assume that it is better to be alone at a certain time than to share it for the mere need of props. However, wasting time is not losing the opportunity to recover it. There are people who make you recover all that time lost from reproaches, insecurities or disloyalty.

Stop spending minutes, days and years on relationships that take away meaning from your existence. You know you’ve wasted your time with someone when you don’t miss them. When the good moments no longer appear in your head without being clouded by the feeling of failure and subsequent disappointment. Wasting time is sharing your life with someone you no longer admire or value.

Alarms indicating deterioration

That a relationship is deteriorating is something easy to detect, but very difficult to face. How many times have we been forced to go to an appointment without desire, to be absent from a meeting, to pay for a trip wanting it to be over before even setting foot at the destination. These are clear indicators that something is very wrong, but taking action on the matter is difficult.

How then to distance yourself discreetly, without harm, without destroying every step of the relationship that you once built? Difficult, but necessary. Sometimes the mere fact of wanting to do it makes us feel instantly guilty.

Indicators that something is wrong

There are objective indicators that have to make you reflect and gain momentum to make a decision. Some of the clearest and most painful are:

Your presence seems to bother the other person. Your way of expressing yourself, giving your opinion or even eating is annoying to him. You stop being comfortable to be alert. He questions you in front of acquaintances: he brings up personal topics about nothing, putting you in the spotlight of several people who should not be involved in that personal conversation of yours, which you only decide to bring up. shine. You feel mistrust instead of tranquility when you are not with her, you sense that she is talking about you and not in a good way. She does not advise you, she does not console you: she evaluates you, ridicules you or even He “scolds” you for anything.None of the plans proposed by you seem good to him. There are no obvious arguments or anger, but the atmosphere feels charged like a grenade about to explode. His gaze is no longer sweet, companionable, reassuring. Now she notices you hoping to bring out something that you don’t know what it is. It is an accusatory, empty look. You can’t see anything in the expression in her eyes.In short: you no longer see clarity in heryou only see murky currents that increasingly penetrate you and that makes you feel like an aggressive, sad, tense and betrayed person.

All these aspects are just a sign that you are wasting your time with that person. Be a friend, cousin, sister, partner or mother. Depending on the degree of relationship, the emotional tear will be greater.

Do not forget that for What hurts a lot one day will bring relief on many other days. But that will be later rather than sooner if you put off that decision too long.

People will arrive and occupy that space.

After the suffering, one day someone will arrive, a person with whom you will feel that your life is being rebuilt at the same time that you feel support without malice in it. That person who will give birth can be called a friend, co-worker or partner.

So, You will know that you are not wasting your time when you can give your opinion freely. When the smile floods your face or when you argue frankly and then solve it without resentment.

Do not give up that opportunity because we all have that right, hope is powerful and the facts that it drives even more.

If you have “wasted your time” with someone, you have already won; Well, you have been able to put an end to that story. Now the most beautiful thing remains: get it back loving you and wanting. If it goes wrong, don’t take as long as the last time, that’s the cycle of life.

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