There are days when everything is messy: the hair, the bed, the heart.

Today everything in me is disordered: my hair, my bed, my heart.…I no longer have someone to bare my fears and embrace my soul, but still, I promise you that I will collect every lost piece, I will brush my emptiness and braid my sorrows so that none of this prevents me from dressing myself again with smiles, with hope.

Each of us has sometimes experienced these vital crossroads in which, suddenly, everything seems to be disordered. Our personal compasses no longer point north and almost without knowing how, we reach the edge of the abyss. Now, whether we believe it or not, right now we only have two options: fall into that abyss and hit rock bottom or emerge driven towards change, towards a new personal fulfillment.

It is curious to analyze for a moment the etymological meaning of the word “crisis”. It comes from Greek and is derived from two very interesting terms: “the breaking of something” and the opportunity to “analyze” that something.

So that, When our life is so messed up that we don’t even know which foot to start walking on, there is nothing better than analyzing each of our broken parts. to understand each other better and then promote change. We suggest you reflect on it with us.

A messy brain trying to survive chaos

We know that this information may surprise you, but our brain has not evolved precisely to allow us to be increasingly happier. In fact, each generation continues to have almost the same emotional and existential problems as their predecessors. Our “gray tissue”, so to speak, is no guru when it comes to happiness.

The brain has only one need: to guarantee our survival. Hence, for example, fears, those instinctive mechanisms that turned out to be very effective for primitive man to defend himself from possible predators. Now, today, our fears are less concrete and more intangible: we are afraid of loneliness, of failure, of not being loved, of not meeting certain expectations…

Added to this is another essential aspect. According to a study published in theReview of General Psychology Negative experiences leave a deeper imprint on our brain than positive ones.. However, its purpose is clear: to provide us with new information to be able to survive better in new life situations.

Therefore, the brain perceives these moments of crisis and personal disorder as “small threats” to our own survival. Hence, his “invitation” to be able to adapt better to our contexts and for this, sometimes, there is only one way: change.

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How to face our vital crossroads

Few things leave our hearts as disordered as an emotional breakup.. The emotional and personal investment is so high in these situations that after that goodbye, we can only hide in the shell of our loneliness to listen to the rumor of all those lost dreams.

Since we already know that our brain does not have that natural switch to make us happy again, it is enough to remember several things that it does have: resilience, the ability to face adversity and a very high creative capacity to find the best strategy with which to get out. of our vital crossroads.

We offer you simple guidelines that can help you.

Keys to restoring order and finding our personal balance

When everything is disordered, there is nothing better than sowing our daily lives with small pleasures. It may seem silly, but when our mind suffers from an excess of “past” and an extreme fear of the “future” there is nothing better than anchoring it to the present through simple and pleasant activities.

Go for a walk, disconnect from your routine and what is usual in your daily life. This way, you will see things from another perspective.Understand that living is above all making decisions. At every crossroads, the only thing that is required of us is one thing: to be responsible for ourselves.To make decisions, you first need adequate internal calm.. Right now you may only feel the disorder of your emotions and feelings, but there will always come that moment when you must stop and become aware of where you are and what you need. Rehearse possibilities. Start by making small changes and pay attention to what happens.. If you like the result, take a little bigger step, a bolder change, and then you’ll see how many hills and mountains you can move.

In conclusion, although it may surprise us, in reality, People should not be so afraid of these vital moments of personal disorder. Far from giving them a purely negative attribution, it is better to see them for what they are: temporary clouds without certainty that force us to open our colored umbrellas to weather the storm.

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