The hard emotional shell of the warrior

It is likely that on some occasion you have tried to protect your feelings by creating a kind of shell, but this, although useful in the short term, can have consequences for your emotional health. How can you get rid of it? Here we explain it to you

Throughout life we face situations or moments that are hard for us and uncomfortable. Perhaps they are simply scenarios in which our emotions do not know how to act, they do not know the weapons to combat them.

This is a very natural fact, human beings learn from experience and their environment. Every day we experience circumstances that test the depths of our being, but the result of our decisions is not always positive. It is natural to develop defense mechanisms to face these battles.. We are warriors who choose our weapons for the fight and, sometimes, we create a shell whose protection alters our emotional quality.

The emotional shell

The defensive attitude towards life is an emotional option that works 24 hours a day. Its function lies in coping with daily vicissitudes, but it does not mean that it is a healthy and enriching way. Promptly They are mechanisms that can help us manage situations. But faced with the continuous repetition of these scenarios, in the medium or long term, we will create an emotional shell. The consequences of this emotional armor, among others, are:

The denial of said situations and even the denial of feeling emotions by them.Evasion of own responsibility: Trying to find excuses or culprits adds more negativity to the situation. Low self-esteem and insecurity. Denying one’s own feelings is a way of undervaluing them and, ultimately, to our own person.A falsely “perfect” identity ends up being constructed. By hiding our emotions or weaknesses we try to create an ideal image, which does not feel or suffer, immune to any feeling, but deep down it really does not work. Weak self-knowledge. It affects who we are, what we want and how we want it. In short, we show a picture of our self that is poorly defined and with shadows.Weakens social relationships. For others, it is difficult and arduous to try to get to know someone who has an emotional shell, so they will eventually distance themselves.

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In general, It can distort our vision of the reality that surrounds us, limiting our personal evolution. In general, we become surly, disbelieving people with no ability to generate enthusiasm. Little by little we destroy ourselves and leave victims in our closest circle.

Get rid of it

In the face of any destructive feeling that reduces our emotional quality of life, The first step to manage it is to be honest with yourself. Accept yourself as you are, do not look for an unreal model of perfection, understand that no one is perfect. Carrying out a deep inner study of who we are is essential.

These concepts are not acquired quickly, but Consistency and motivation to take the helm of our lives is a reward that encourages you to try every day.

Communication is the basic pillar that will move this path to destroy the emotional armor. It is as important to talk to ourselves as it is to communicate with others.: our desires, fears, doubts, ideas… are essential ingredients to get closer to the world, free without hard armor that prevents us from advancing in the long learning of life.