The controversy over the banning of children at weddings

A practice has become popular among grooms and has caused great controversy in bride discussion groups on social networks: the “ban” on children at weddings🇧🇷 Subtly – or explicitly – many couples have warned their guests to don’t take your young children to the party🇧🇷

“A wedding is a party planned for adults, from the ceremony, party, menu and all other attractions. Regardless of age, the child has a different bedtime, needs a different menu, recreation options and a place for him to rest when he is sleepy. Because of their age, not every child can keep up with the dynamics of the party”, argues the wedding consultant Ana Paula Tabet🇧🇷

The practice is almost unanimous among event organizers, with the argument of not only reducing the number of guests, but also giving parents a night to have fun without the little ones. But the invitation restricted to adults has generated a lot of controversy. Offended at having their children excluded from the celebration, many refuse to attend the wedding.🇧🇷

Whatever the reasons given by the bride and groom, the prohibition always causes discomfort in the guests. “When I received the RSVP call from my cousin’s wedding, I was very politely informed that my children, aged 3 and 9, were advised to stay home as the event was for adults only. We are a family and my children go where I go🇧🇷 I will not deprive them of my company to enjoy a party. I ended up not going. Children are not a nuisance, they are people.“, says teacher Daniela Oliveira. Accounting assistant Laura Rodrigues received the same guidance when she was invited to a work friend’s wedding. “I understand that newlyweds want a perfect event and not all parents give their children the attention they need at a party. But children really run, speak loudly. This has nothing to do with lack of education, it is natural with age and it is the responsibility of parents to take care of their children. I wasn’t offended that they didn’t invite my 4-year-old daughter to the party, but I didn’t go to the wedding either.“, account.

As the issue is delicate, it is up to the bride and groom to be sensitive. “There is the RSVP service, which is very efficient for any party”, advises the specialist.

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It is possible to use some services child friendly for the little ones, as a resting place and even some specific food options. The idea is that children participate in the party with peace of mind.

In all cases, the structure must still have the option of a changing room and breastfeeding space. As provided by the federal law on the right to lactation in public places, the mother cannot and should not be deprived of feeding her baby. Also, common sense dictates that this should be done in a comfortable and private environment.

Increasingly common, the services of children’s entertainment at weddings they are also good alternatives for those with children on the guest list. “These services resolve 50% of the child’s distraction issue”, says Paula.