My daughter is no longer a virgin. And now?

Suddenly, you realize that your daughter – that sweet little girl who loved playing with dolls so much – has grown up. And already have sex! Ai ai ai… How to react?

First step: don’t lose your head. “It’s no use repressing or pretending nothing is happening,” observes sex therapist Sylvia Marzano. At this time, the ideal is to take a deep breath and prepare to have a good conversation with her. Here, we help you organize this conversation.

1. Is there a right age for
first time?
No, but this has been going on for 15-16 years. Many young women have their first relationship just to show that they are not “backward” – and regret it later. The right time is when she feels ready.

2. What do I do if my daughter is no longer a virgin?
Converse. Ask if she already felt prepared, how she was prevented against pregnancy or sexual diseases, if she liked the guy and if you could help her. Make her comfortable talking.

3. What if she doesn’t want to talk about it?
Do not demand that she open up. But tell her you can take her to a doctor if she wants to. The fact that you are interested in the subject shows your daughter that you respect her growth.

4. If she gets badmouthed, what do I do?
Explain to her that anyone’s sex life is a very intimate matter and shouldn’t be shared with everyone. Otherwise, she may become the target of gossip or mean comments.

5. Her first time wasn’t nice. How to help her?
You will only be able to help her if she asks for help. In that case, the best remedy is to be held, in addition to friendly advice. By accepting your daughter without blaming her, you make her feel loved.

6. Should I talk to her boyfriend?
No, this can create a lot of embarrassment. Respect the couple’s privacy and relationship. It’s fine to talk about birth control, but talk to your daughter and leave her partner out of the conversation.

7. What should I say to male children?
They should receive the same guidance as girls. Even today, many people believe that the man is solely responsible for giving pleasure to the woman and, therefore, should have several sexual experiences to improve. But this is nothing more than a myth. The boy also has many doubts and needs parental guidance.