The art of prudence: how to react in the best way

Today I will react in the best way… How many times have you reacted in a less than correct way? When faced with negative situations that force us to react, sometimes our self-control is lost. completely.

To react in the best way, we must learn to control ourselves. We know that it is something very easy to say, but difficult to put into practice. How to act in the best way in a new situation, totally unknown to us?

Reacting in the best way does not mean saying everything we think, which we know by “not mincing words.” No, Reacting in the best way implies being wise and also being a prudent person.

Think before reacting

There are various situations in which we have been forced to react.. This can occur in the family, in the personal environment or even at work. It is difficult to establish specific guidelines to act depending on what is causing that negative reaction you are having. There are many situations that can arise, many of which have yet to be discovered. What can we do then?

When you are about to react, and you do, think about what is best for you, what benefits you, should you give in or not? These are turning points that you must keep in your mind at all times, because you must also look around you and see what situation you are in and where you are.

In addition, having the expression “Today I will react in the best way” constantly in our mind can help us not rush. Reacting in a public place is not the same as in a more private one. It is also not the same to react with your friend as with your boss. We must take these things into account so that we are not harmed by our own reaction.

Don’t give importance to negative moments

We always tend to give more importance to the negative moments that occupy our lives.. The truth is that, because they hurt us, we tend to give them more importance. But, if you want to react in the best way today, start not giving them so much importance. Negative situations happen just as well as positive ones. What we have to do is not lose sight of our own confidence and positivity.

Don’t let yourself be overcome by that negative situation. Even if things go wrong for you today, keep going! Tomorrow things will be better and, if not, they will change. It is very important that you do not become obsessed or focus so much on that negativity situation. Think that negativity will only attract more negativity.

Ways to react

The best way to react is to change our view of our own reaction.. But, for this it is important that we know a little about the three ways we normally react:

We enter the sensation and live it intensely. We try to ignore the sensation, but it is difficult for us. We make an effort to see things differently.

In principle, we must say that the second way of reacting is the most negative. Ignoring sensations or our emotions will never be positive. Even if we ignore what we are feeling, it will still be there. Possibly, if we lie to ourselves believing that we no longer feel anything, ignoring that feeling, it will emerge late mixed with other new sensations.

Therefore, the second way to react is if we can avoid it better. If we experience the emotion or sensation intensely, we will be able to know it in depth and know how to proceed later. And if, finally, we strive to see things differently we will be playing with several different points of view that can enrich our vision of things.

Today I will react in the best way by acting

Changing our way of seeing things also implies changing the way we see reactions. We react to something negative, but what if instead of reacting we acted?

We tend to remain static in situations, thinking, eating our shit and sometimes exploding because we can’t do more in that situation in which we feel helpless.

Start acting. It is something difficult, because we are very comfortable where we are, without taking risks. But, When faced with a negative reaction, change your mind and start acting. It could be by leaving where you are, letting the other person speak alone, distancing yourself from those people who do you no good… or, simply, changing your situation.

Think about this and repeat it as many times as necessary until you can internalize it and put it into practice: “today I will react in the best way, acting.”

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