The annoying verbiage: people who never shut up

Something goes from being communicative to having frequent bouts of verbosity. There’s nothing wrong with some people who like to talk, but the truth is that sometimes they overdo it.. They talk so much that if their mouths were sewn shut, letters would come out of their ears. They cannot remain silent, to the point that they end up talking to the television if they cannot find an interlocutor.

This behavior Sometimes it is very overwhelming for others. They try to have a conversation with them, but they give up after a while.. There is no way for them to stop. They generally choose their “victims” wisely. These are usually quiet and affable people, who would not dare ask them to be silent or leave them alone in the middle of a verbiage attack. That is why they suffer them selflessly.

Another point that defines these verbiage lovers is the topic of conversation. . This almost always has a defined axis: themselves. Those around them have to endure a detailed presentation of their opinions, experiences, appreciations, plans, memories and everything, absolutely everything that revolves around them. This, eventually, ends up exhausting anyone. So why can’t they just shut up?

They know everything… and more

The attacks Verbosity is very common in those who have a trait that goes hand in hand: they know everything and more. At least that’s what they believe. There is no issue in which they have not ventured nor area in which they do not have an opinion to share. Everything that has happened in the world has already happened to them or is about to happen to them.

Even if they have not studied a topic and have read little about it, they have no problem in teaching. Now that if you know the subject and have a related title, the matter looks even worse. They are like a traveling seminar, pontificating and offering miniscule data that no one is asking them about. They can be a real nightmare.

These types of people love words strange and flowery speeches. In some way it’s as if they feel that the whole world is one big auditorium. who is expectant about what they are going to share. They do not believe that they have anything to learn from others. On the other hand, its underlying intention is to teach. Basically, they want to be the center of attention and show off.

The unillustrated verbiage

Verbosity is also an evil of those who do not try to project an enlightened image. There are also those that they don’t want to teach about all kinds of topics, but they need to inform others about their entire life or that of others. They place excessive emphasis on any daily event and narrate it in detail down to the smallest aspect, as if it had transcendental importance.

There are also those who assume that you are asking them for an opinion or advice all the time.. As soon as you manage to make a comment about some aspect of your life, they immediately dissolve into assessments, diagnoses and conjectures about what is happening in your life, what you should do, the causes, the consequences and everything that occurs to them. The same thing happens with those who decide to complain non-stop.

The problem is that once you fall into their web of words, inertia will make you tend to stay in that place.. The other option is to go through the unpleasant situation of asking them to be quiet. They will hardly choose moments for listening themselves.

What to do with a verbosity?

A person who makes verbosity his style of communication with others could have a psychological disorder, or simply unlimited egocentrism.. The latter cannot be classified as a disorder in itself, but it is definitely not a sign of mental health either.

There are some states of mania, anxiety or agitation that lead to talking, talking and talking. Non-stop speech is a way to express that anguish. Their restlessness prevents them from being silent and/or listening. His way of speaking is compulsive, and often disordered. They can move from one topic to another without any connection. In those cases, listening to them can help. Perhaps following their speech with comments can be an attitude that helps them calm down.

In the case of egocentrics, which is the most frequent, what happens is that the person has not developed the psychological tools to establish two-way communication. His is a monologue and the others are a container. An audience. In those cases, it is best not to lend yourself to being part of their narcissistic game.

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