The 6 NEVERS I Learned From Cheating (True Story)

I’ve heard it said several times that when a woman cheats on her partner, it’s because the thing is worse than it really seems to be.

Married for 16 years to the great love of my life, I never thought it would get to this point. I never thought I was capable of wanting any man other than my husband.

In the beginning, he was exactly the person who had asked God. He was a mature man, even though we were the same age. He protected me, reassured me, listened to me. I felt seen and loved. And so we started our family.

First came a daughter, then the second, then the third, and finally, the little dog that arrived to complete the perfect family in the margarine commercial.

And then you can ask me: wasn’t everything so perfect?

No, it was not. Expectations never lined up with reality. I created a super hero in my head that didn’t exist in flesh and blood. He had flaws and flaws. I had flaws and flaws. There were needs that could never be met by simply being imperfect people.

At one point in my life, a root of bitterness took hold. It distanced me from God, it sprouted, it took root.

I felt so far away from everything and everyone, so tired, so exhausted from the life I led. The obligations never seemed to end. Between duties to do and house to take care of, tiredness overwhelmed my soul, my spirit.

One fine day, I got caught up in such an “innocent” conversation with a boy much younger than me. He just wanted to help and I needed help.

But then came the praise. And the compliments made me an addict. I needed that to have the strength and make it to the end of my day. Those words seemed to make the sun seem to shine brighter, even the air I breathed smelled delicious.

I started to feel unique and powerful, that woman I so wanted to be and, above all, that woman who would like to be seen through my husband’s eyes.

But the outcome was cruel. The end was more bitter than the gall. The pain of betraying the person I loved was immense. And what I learned in that period, I share here with you.

SEE ALSO: CHEAT IS NOT A SLIP, IT’S AN OPTION.

There are 6 NEVER that you should read and reread, because it is certainly a path that is not worth taking:

1. NEVER, NEVER let anything keep you from daily contact with God.

We cannot measure forces with evil and if we do it on our own, we will inevitably lose the war. But when you have a solid relationship with God, He helps you overcome any temptation.

2. NEVER, NEVER think that you will be happier next to the person who enchanted you.

This is the worst lie you can believe. After the passion passes, the reality will be bitter and very difficult to face. It will likely be a failed relationship.

3. NEVER, EVER stop asking for help if you think you are failing.

Talking to a trusted person, seeing a therapist or even asking someone to pray for you is always a good choice.

4. NEVER, EVER devalue yourself to the point where your worth is in someone else’s hands.

Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses, use it to improve yourself. This will make sure that any compliment from others doesn’t have a disturbing impact.

5. NEVER, EVER stop talking to your partner about what’s bothering you and how you can find a solution TOGETHER so that your relationship is strengthened.

Look for couples therapies, support groups, but don’t face it alone.

6. NEVER, EVER let a day go by without praying for your spouse and/or your marriage.

Everything that happens in a family comes from the spirit world. Therefore, strengthen the right structures to prevent a small crack from bringing the entire wall down.

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