Storms are temporary, your attitude stainless

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Storms, like difficult days, come and go. The important thing is our stainless attitude, it is what gives us hope, who reminds us what our values, needs and priorities are. She is our compass so we don’t get lost.

Storms dim the light, filling the sky with dark slabs, winds and downpours. Often, they scare us and force us to take shelter, to look at the world from the window while that rain gets worse. However, there is one thing that is clear to us: sooner or later it will end, like every difficulty in life. The important thing, as almost always, is to maintain a stainless attitude.

William James, famous philosopher and psychologist of the late 19th century, known for being a pioneer in the scientific study of psychology, said that There is a wonderful component in the human being. It is neither more nor less than our attitude. Thanks to it we can, at any given moment, vary our behavior and adapt it to the circumstances to emerge victorious.

These dimensions are a determining conjunction of emotions, beliefs and behavioral tendencies that guide us towards specific objectives (Hogg and Vaughan, 2005). Our attitudes can help us cross bridges or leave us bordering a pit thinking there is no way out, getting trapped in a rigid and fatalistic mental approach.

Thus, while it is true that these psychological constructs have a genetic and an environmental component, in which our learning and education have a part of significance, there is something undeniable. We can all build a stronger attitude.

Each of us has the possibility of sculpting an attitude where fears do not tremble, where hope and confidence in our own resources always exist.

A stainless attitude for sunny and stormy days

Icek Ajzen, a social psychologist at the University of Massachusetts, explains in his book Attitudes, Personality, and Behavior, that a stainless attitude needs a principle of coherence. What does this mean?

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It implies, for example, that Each of us must take care of that internal harmony between what we feel and what we do.between what he defends and what he demonstrates, between what he wants and what he works on every day.

Attitudes have three basic components: emotions, beliefs and behaviors.. These three pillars must always be firmly aligned in our minds and hearts.

One cannot, for example, defend nature and the environment and remain silent when a friend or one’s partner throws a can or a lit cigarette butt into a forest. An attitude is felt, expressed and projected in behavior.

On the other hand, and beyond the principle of coherence, there are other determining elements. We must know what are the characteristics of a stainless attitudethat is, that psychological disposition that can allow us to better face difficulties and life challenges. They are the following.

The proactive attitude, the mind that anticipates how to react to storms

Our attitude can be reactive or proactive. The first forms a passive mentality that is limited only to reacting to events. When something unexpected arises, she simply receives the blow and lets herself be carried away by that onslaught. It is an approach that does not know very well how to handle unforeseen events and that is limited to doing what others do, to obey.

On the contrary, We have that exceptional ingredient that serves as an alloy to the stainless attitude, and it is none other than the proactive approach. It is the one who, far from giving up, feels prepared for challenges. When faced with a difficulty, he does not obsess over wondering “why” this or that has happened; He focuses on the “why” and the “how.”

The stainless attitude believes in hope, that tomorrow will be better than today

In 2012, Yeshiva University in New York and the Albert Einstein College of Medicine conducted an interesting study. They wanted to know the relationship between people’s attitude and its relationship with human longevity. Thus, something they discovered is that those men and women who reached the age of 100 had more than just good health.

They were optimistic people, they had an open, hopeful attitude, they were very sociable and they also had a calm, calm and focused personality. They knew what they wanted and what they considered valuable in their existence.

Likewise, a large part of them had gone through difficult times, but in the midst of those circumstances, They never left room for surrender. They simply felt a true passion for life.

A stainless attitude is what allows us to face the winds on stormy days and what, in turn, knows how to enjoy sunny times where everything is calm.

That mental approach is coated with a unique alloy, one where positivity, a proactive mind, hope and that unusual determination not to give up are integrated. For being like bamboo in the middle of a hurricane, someone flexible but incredibly resistant.