Sometimes it’s better to take a deep breath and stay quiet.

They say that silence is the art that feeds wisdom, so sometimes there is no choice but to use it to respond correctly, so as not to continue with conversations and actions that are not worth it. Breathing deeply and staying quiet at certain times is the best option we can take.

It is curious how those who have been working in psychotherapy for many years They often see considerable progress in the healing process in the client’s own silence.. For many it may seem somewhat contradictory since therapy is built with a powerful exchange through words. Thus, the medium is that dialogue that acts as an energy that confronts, that deepens, that awakens and reconstructs.

However, that sudden silence, in which the person remains silent for a moment and takes a breath, often marks a crucial moment. It is when you become fully aware of your emotions, it is when you realize something that until now you had not perceived.. It is also when the person is more focused than ever by harmonizing thoughts and emotions, and the past is left aside to focus authentically on the present moment.

Silence, sometimes, acts as an awakening of consciousness, and that is something exceptional. Not only does it help us better manage conversations or specific situations, it is also a channel where we can get in touch with ourselves to stop “doing” for a moment and simply “be”.

We are therefore faced with a topic with interesting nuances and curious aspects that can be of great help to us on a daily basis. We invite you to delve deeper into the multiple aspects of silence and the art of staying silent..

The mental noise, the noise that surrounds us and devours us

We live in the culture of noise. We are not referring precisely to the ambient sound pressure, to the persistent hum of traffic, to the perpetual snore of factories or to the echo of big cities that never sleep. We talk about mental noise, that uproar of opposing emotions. A mental cacophony that not only causes us to stop listening to whoever is in front of us, but often causes us to stop listening to ourselves.

We are influenced by a type of communication where the enthusiastic voice, the one that shouts and leaves no pauses, is the one that triumphs. We see it in our politicians, we see it in many of our work meetings, wherever Anyone who remains silent is instantly labeled as someone who is not very determined or lacks charisma.. In fact, the essayist and journalist George Michelsen Foy, did a study to show that in Western culture The person who remains silent before responding is viewed with distrust or suspicion.

Conversations are often assembled through phrases and words that do not pass through an adequate mental or emotional filter. We forget that managing language and words is also the art of intelligence, where silence is often a necessary step..

Let’s stop, at least for a moment, to meet. It is necessary to stop to see and feel the other. Let us understand then that There is nothing wrong with taking a breath and staying silent in the middle of a conversation.. Maybe what we say after that pause is the solution to the problem or the key to recovering our relationship.

Staying silent and giving silence can be a punishment

George Bernard Shaw said that ““Silence is the most perfect expression of contempt.”. So, We must be very careful in how we use it, in how we apply it depending on the context and the people receiving that silence.. So far, we have made it clear that the use of silence is a perfect tool to manage one’s own emotions, to focus on the here and now and thus be able to issue a more accurate response or type of action.

The entrepreneur, researcher and lecturer Luis Castellanos talks to us about this same topic in his book “The science of positive language”. Silence is a pause for ourselves. Staying quiet is necessary, for example, when we return from work and are about to enter home. Something as simple as taking a deep breath and remaining silent for a few seconds can take away the pressure and anxiety of that other context that we should not project at home.

Now, something that would be good to keep in mind is that silence can often act as a curtailer of the quality of our personal relationships. It is the words that educate, it is the words that heal and they that help us build bridgesto create roots and consolidate our ties through positive, empathetic and close language.

Hence we must be very clear that Silence is not a positive punishment for any child., that any bad act, mischief or blunder cannot be solved by withdrawing his speech or denying him the solitude of his room. With this, what we often do is feed anger. In these cases, communication is essential, essential to change behaviors, to recognize errors and provide help towards improvement.

So let’s make good use of silence. Let’s make it our palace of calm where we can meet again, where we can harmonize emotions.where to calm the mind and to find in it, the best answer, the most beautiful word for the most needed moment.

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