Repent of what you don’t do, not of what you do

Don’t even think about regretting what you have undertaken, the courage you have put into each action to achieve your goal or your dream. Regretting what you have already done for the simple reason that it may not have gone as you expected is absurd. and a waste of energy and time. What if she had gone well? So…Would you regret it?

If the answer is no, then you don’t regret having taken the step of jumping into the pool. What really generates that regret in you is that You didn’t expect that sometimes expectations have to be frustrated. It’s life, okay, that’s how it is.

Failure must serve us to learn and even to try again with the lessons now from experience.

Staying in the comfort zone, dreaming of what could have been is something to regret. In that case, in which we do not even try, we are already failing to achieve our objectives. We settle for a life devoid of emotions and only for fear of getting a little frustrated.

But I’m sorry, Frustrations and disappointments are part of life. Sooner or later they will reach you, even if you don’t take risks or jump into the void with a project. They will appear from another side: with your family, with your partner, with your lifelong job… Even the lack of risk itself can become a source of frustration.

Don’t collect regrets

All your decisions, all your actions, everything you dreamed of, fought for and gave everything for today shapes your being, the person you are, the place you have wanted to focus and guide your life. No one should regret who they are or how they choose to live.

It is true that success is overvalued in this society and it seems that only those who, even taking risks, end up succeeding are valuable.

We value the result too much, but we do not value progress as much and with the sacrifice and effort of all the people who give their all in order to achieve their goals. Knowing that sometimes it will turn out well and other times they will lose the bet.

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That essence is what really has value. Have a goal that pushes us to continue living; love her, risk our money, time and work for her. In reality, this is what motivates and reinforces us, and not so much the result. The illusion of seeing ourselves building what we want is what makes us get up every morning and feel a little happier.

Therefore, you should not regret what you undertake, If you want, repent of what you have not tried for fear of failing.. And it’s not that you have to beat yourself up for having paid too much attention to your fear, but it is advisable that you realize that you have let yourself be guided by an emotion. An emotion that has passed, being replaced by what could have been.

Don’t worry. We can also learn from this. We are not perfect and it is common for us to allow ourselves to be guided and manipulated by some emotions. But you have to learn from it and it’s possible. He hits the table and decides to fly once and for all, no matter what!

Be brave to take flight, but also to manage the fall

The mature person is one who has dreams and illusions, but also who has his feet on the ground.. They are people who know themselves so well and accept themselves unconditionally that they know very well how far they can and cannot go.

They know their limitations and potentialities and based on them, they draw up a plan and are able to carry it out because they notice that they have a lot of control over the situation.

When we talk about control, we refer to everything that can really be controlled, of course. That is, what depends on ourselves: frustrations, actions, decisions, tolerance…

They are brave people, who almost always have their heads in the present, but who imagine a better future.. They want to eat life by squeezing it hard with their teeth and not just tasting it on top, like someone who already makes a disgusted face before trying a new flavor. His way of thinking is summarized in: “If we are here to live, then let’s live. If things go wrong, we’ll see how we handle them.”

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This does not mean that they are crazy heads who don’t know what they are doing. In reality, impulsive people are also scared to death. Their maturity and emotional intelligence make them brave but also responsible and cautious.

The key is that they do not suffer fear when they think about possible failures. In fact, being realistic, they do not perceive them as probable, but only as possibilities.

What are you waiting for to be a little braver? Do you always plan to stay on the shore, without knowing how you are swimming in the sea? You are here to live, to take risks, to achieve dreams and discover the magic that is hidden behind them.. And if you fail, then you learn and take flight again. Never again regret what you do, if only what you don’t do because of fear.