Relax, you will fall in love again one day — and I can prove it to you!

“Will I ever find a new love?” Yes, don’t stress!

At this very moment you may be thinking that you will never fall in love again. I know.

I know it’s not because you’re skeptical — you believe in love, you’re not doubting its worth. You also know that you are a perfectly lovable person—that someone is going to take an interest in you and want to be with you again someday. You know it.

It’s just that something is missing inside you. You’ve forgotten how to love another person properly—how to freely give and receive affection, because your last relationship broke you.

I know you hate to phrase it like that. It seems terribly melodramatic to use the word “broken” in reference to yourself — after all, you are still a person — fully capable of living, loving, and getting on with your life. You are a successful person. You are a strong and productive member of society. It’s not like you’re falling apart.

But something inside of you isn’t fitting in the way it used to. You don’t feel those butterflies so easily anymore these days. You no longer melt at the touch of a hand. Being with other people feels empty—dark where it used to be exploding. Dull where it used to be bright.

You forgot what it’s like to stay up late on WhatsApp with the love of your life. Like spending hours getting ready for a date. You may go through the motions of intimacy—you’re still a human being, after all—but you’ve lost the ability to feel emotionally naked or exposed next to someone new. The part of yourself that you were able to give so easily is missing and you just can’t figure out why. You want to know if you’re going to be gone forever.

I’m here to say no!

Of course, I can’t say that with 100% certainty. I am not a seer or a prophet. But what I am is a person who has also had his heart broken. A person who has also become disenchanted with love. I’m a person who’s been where you’ve been and felt what you felt but managed to pass to the other side.

Because the truth is that love comes back. You’re the one who’s not ready for that yet.

You’re not ready for love yet because you can’t stop comparing current lovers to past lovers. Because the spark, the magic, the fire that you’re struggling to feel hasn’t been a natural thing in your life—it’s been an attempt to reconstruct the exact feeling you once had with someone else.

You’re not ready for love because the intimacy you feel hasn’t been real—it’s been a desperate pain to be understood in the exact way you’ve been understood by someone else.

The emptiness you are haunted by right now is not a glaring indication that your life will be absent from love forever.

It’s just an indication that you have the wrong idea about what true love is. And that idea of ​​love is precisely what you have to let die, before a new one can blossom.

Before love comes back, you have to let go of your past expectations. You have to let go of the particular mental mold you’ve placed yourself in. You need to stop waiting for love to arrive in the specific, predetermined way you planned it before you are ready to receive what is real.

Because the next time you really fall in love, it will be by surprise. Real things always do that.

You will be surprised when this happens. You will be surprised how this feeling plays out. You’ll be surprised that love doesn’t look the way you remember it, and yet it will be there—a new and completely different beast in love.

The reason love hasn’t come to you yet is because you keep plugging in the wrong numbers into a tired formula that stopped adding up a long time ago.

You’re looking for love in places you know are wrong, and as long as you don’t accept that it’s not there, you’re going to go empty-handed. Because here’s the truth about where and when you will find love again:

You will find love when you are happy without it.

You will find love when your heart, spirit and mind are so filled with passion for the world around you that you are practically overflowing. You will find love when your interactions with others are simple and calm and you are not desperate for the purpose of being cared for and admired. You will find love when you finally know how to give, without expecting anything in return.

You will find love when you are ready to welcome it into your life with all your heart.

And until then, it’s okay to take that time to heal. It’s okay to be alone and often wonder when love will find its way back into your life.

Now you might think you’ll never fall in love again. But how many times have you made a mistake in your life for thinking that something would be one way, but in fact, it was another?

You were wrong and now you can be again.

Except this time, being wrong will be unexpectedly and unmistakably beautiful.

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Be alone until you find the person who shows you that love is simple