Quiz: Answer Just 1 Question And We’ll Tell You Something You Don’t Admit About Yourself

Each of us, at least once in our lives, dreamed of having a twin, an exact copy. He could take the exams for us, play pranks on our friends, or even go to an appointment we don’t really feel like going to. But how would we feel if this twin were superior to us in some way? From the point of view of psychology, the answer to this question is very revealing and can say a lot about our hidden characteristics.

O awesome.club prepared for you a curious test based on the projective test. It consists of a single question and we asked our authors to answer it. Take the test and compare your answer with that of our colleagues.

Imagine the following situation: one day you discover that you have a twin brother (for men) or a twin sister (for women). You had never seen each other as you were separated as children. So they get to know each other, talk about their lives. And suddenly you realize that there is something you envy in your twin.

Question: what exactly caused your envy? Do you envy some circumstances in your twin’s life or his personal qualities, his character? Write down whatever comes to your mind on paper. Write in detail, don’t limit yourself to general phrases like “you’re happier”, “you’re richer” or the like. To make it easier, you can draw this perfect imaginary twin and yourself next to it.

The answer to this question reveals your true values ​​and priorities. Not the ones you deliberately invented for yourself, but the ones that are anchored in your subconscious. To make it easier to identify these hidden values, let’s analyze them using the example of our authors’ answers.

“She’s beautiful: she has perfect teeth, long blonde hair, she’s thin… I see her, more precisely, as an ideal copy of me, something I can’t become”. Gabriella, 27 years old.

Gabriela dreams of being perfect. Is that even possible, especially when it comes to looks? After all, a person can dedicate themselves to improving their physique in many ways and may never be “perfect” in their eyes. Probably Gabriela herself knows this. But on a subconscious level, the person would like to dedicate more time and attention to taking care of themselves.

If in your answer, first of all, there is envy of appearance and you have a lot of complexes when you see photos of someone’s perfect body on Instagram, this could be a sign of neurosis. On the other hand, if you only envy your “imaginary twin”, your wonderful appearance, like Gabriela, then you are quite satisfied in all other aspects of your aspirations.

“1. My twin sister was not afraid of competition and entered a drama school. 2. She knows English perfectly. 3. She Traveled all over Europe. 4. She is thinner than I am. 5. She didn’t need to undergo gallbladder surgery, because she has always led a healthy lifestyle (she didn’t eat ‘junk food’, with low levels of nutrients for the body, etc.) and, in general, takes very good care of her health “. Tamara, 28 years old.

At point 4, we again see the envy of the perfect appearance, and at 5, the priority of having good health is clearly highlighted. Points 1, 2 and 3 indicate that Tamara lacks willpower: “she was not afraid of competition”, “she knows English perfectly”.

The most interesting thing here is that, according to a study carried out by American researchers, willpower is an infinite resource🇧🇷 “If you believe that your willpower is weak and runs out quickly, you will feel in agreement, and you will always leave things halfway through, unfinished. But if you don’t consider that willpower is an exhaustible resource, it’s possible to stay active, go after your goals, regardless of the amount of work done. You just need to change beliefs about the nature of self-control, and that will affect your behavior in a positive way, as well as changing your perception of other people,” said study author Christopher Napolitano. You can find useful tips for training willpower here.

“I envy my sister because she has no health problems and her childhood was happier than mine. I’m not jealous of other things, I’m just happy for her.” Valentina, 27 years old.

Valentina’s laconic response indicates that her main priority is health. As for the comments about an “unhappy childhood”, yes, already in Freud’s time it became fashionable to find the root of all childhood problems, and initially a difficult childhood is seen as something horrible. But several scientists have a different view of this problem.

According to some research, People who faced great hardship and turmoil while growing up have a number of advantages over those who grew up in a completely supportive environment.🇧🇷 They are able to find a way out of the most difficult situations, as their psyche has adapted to stress from an early age. They have the ability to accurately divide what is important and what is not, they are good at calculating the consequences of their actions, they are highly flexible in their thinking, and they are not afraid of responsibility. Of course, we are not saying that having a difficult childhood is wonderful, but it is also possible to find advantages from this situation.

“I met my twin, and this is what I envy: 1. She managed to write a book, something I always dreamed of but couldn’t do. 2. She is married to the man she loves. They have a complete mutual understanding and an interesting relationship. 3. Dedicate yourself to what you like and improve yourself. 4. Travels to the places she wants and when she wants. 5. She is never bored, is an interesting person and interacts with people who are too. 6. Cooks very well, does everything ‘by eye’, doesn’t use a cookbook, and gets it right on the first try. She is more stable than me from a psychological point of view, her anxiety level is much lower than mine, she doesn’t worry about bullshit. 8. she lives in the city she likes”. Catherine, 27 years old.

Catarina’s twin sister is so perfect that it is even difficult for her to exist in reality. Catarina is aware of her psychological problems (point 7) and her dreams and needs (the other points). There is still a clear tendency towards perfectionism. The woman wants to achieve absolute success in all the areas that she mentioned, and since it is impossible, nothing is worth doing. But at the same time, she feels guilty for her lack of attitude and action. This approach is toxic and can lead to depression.

It is very difficult to achieve perfection in all the points mentioned, but it is possible to succeed by learning to cook, dedicating yourself to what you love to do, writing a book, finding your soul mate, etc. The important thing is not to worry and not to blame yourself for not getting everything right away. Instead, you need to set specific goals and try to follow them gradually, step by step.

“Interestingly, all my life I’ve dreamed of having a twin sister or brother, and I don’t know why. But if it did, it would be so cool! I’m curious to know what it would be like: would she have the same hair color as me? And what would the eyes look like, their features? I’m sure we would talk a lot: about what our life is like, about the people around us and we would certainly find some things in common… As for envy, why feel that? If she was okay, she would be very happy, and if something was wrong in her life, we could think together what could be done and how to correct the situation. And ready. Envy should be considered a push, a sign that it’s time to act on something you don’t handle yourself well or don’t accept.” Marcela, 26 years old.

Marcela thinks very positively and realistically. Her response suggests that what is most valuable to her are warm human relationships, sincere communication, mutual help (“we could think together what could be done and how to correct the situation”). Marcela denies the feeling of envy, considering it shameful. It’s worth noting that while envy is rightly considered a negative and destructive feeling, you can’t help but feel it. We’ve all envied someone at least once and it’s perfectly normal. Also, envy can be constructive. As our test shows, this feeling helps you know and discover your true desires.

“I would like to have a twin who is more relaxed and sociable than I am. It would be my true friend, we would go to all kinds of parties together, we would travel, we would meet girls, we would always make jokes with someone. I think it would be really cool and fun. Together with my funny brother, I would forget that I am very introverted, that I have difficulties communicating with people.” Ignatius, 25 years old.

Ignacio would like to have a brother-best-friend so that he could compensate for his difficulties: isolation and shyness. Looks like he doesn’t have enough friends. If you also consider yourself an introvert, you must first find out if this trait is really part of your reality. Nowadays, saying that you are an introvert is very fashionable, but sometimes people hide behind this trait, masking selfishness and laziness, which are actually the reasons that prevent them from making friends. And even if you’re a true introvert, it’s no reason to condemn yourself to eternal loneliness.🇧🇷 Here is some advice on how to feel more relaxed and find common language with different types of people. It is also necessary to take into account that there are 4 types of introverts, and each of them has its own characteristics.

“I wouldn’t be jealous of my twin, I would be happy with her successes and finding a new family member. He would celebrate his victories with her.” Anna, 35 years old.

Ana also doesn’t recognize that she can envy someone. With her answer, it is clear that, for her, the main thing is to have a close family and a good relationship with relatives🇧🇷 She is a mature person who likes people who have won in life, and that is what she herself aspires to. By the way, here you can discover the signs of psychological maturity and evaluate yourself in this regard.

Now, analyze your own answers. If they didn’t surprise you and you are very aware of your values, congratulations! You just need to understand how to implement them in the best possible way. But if the resulting values ​​of your answers were unexpected, then it’s time to honestly ask yourself what you really want in your life…