Promises that are not kept

I am surprised by the easy and natural way in which some people assume their promises. Sometimes it seems that for them it is as if life were a game in which you can promise anything, without even knowing if you are in a position to face it in the future. Overall, no one forces you to comply with anything, therefore, there is no commitment.

When it comes to issues that to some might be trivial, but to others are important, I feel that promises fall into disuse. They seem to lose meaning and value, remaining in nothing, in words that are blown away by the wind, on wet paper.

Broken promises and disappointments

It’s better that they don’t promise you anything, because you assume that some are very far from fulfilling what they promise. When you are aware that that promise that someone has made to you, that that commitment, is just a mirage, it is best not to listen to it. Not worth it.

All We have heard grandparents talk about those distant times when a promise was little less than a commitment of life or death. And I’m not just talking about the promises of love, which, by the way, we have already assumed are precisely the ones that fail to be fulfilled the most.

It doesn’t matter if what they promise you is something trivial or something very important, The commitment of saying that you will do or give something should be enough for you to take charge of it.. And just as you can demand it from others, you must also demand it from yourself when you make a promise. If you can’t do it, don’t do it.

We must take into account the disappointment we make someone feel who has trusted in a promise. And let’s not even say how sad or angry we can feel when we are the ones who are disappointed.

The value of words

We must honor the promise, it is like giving our word, has our word also already fallen into disuse? And it is also true that Our word is our only asset with value.

Material things are circumstantial and one day we may find ourselves without them. We should not give them more value than they have to allow us to get through our lives. On the contrary, Our words and our actions end up defining us as people in the long term. That is what really matters.

The voice is the only thing that no one can take away from us, but We lose it little by little when we make promises that we know we cannot keep.when you promise to get by or delay a person, when you deceive someone and to obtain something you promise something else, etc…

That trust that we expect others to give us is built on the experiences we share with those same people. It is important that we become trustworthy, so much so that our word is valid enough and anyone who knows us takes our promise as a guarantee of truth. This way we can feel proud of being people who keep our word, who do not promise in vain…

As for promises, it is better to have few and true ones than many and false ones. If we cannot or are not willing to keep a promise, it is best not to commit to it. And it doesn’t matter who you do it to. Think about it the next time you are tempted to promise… are you willing to keep this promise no matter what? If not, forget it.

I don’t believe you anymore, but don’t be angry!

When someone makes us promises that they don’t keep, we stop believing them. And it’s normal. An example known to everyone is that of the shepherd who, coming down from the mountain, said: “the wolf is coming.” However, it was a lie, his intention was to play a joke and scare people. But the day the wolf really came…no one believed him.

Even some people, after not keeping their promises, get angry if they are not believed when they promise something again. The question here lies in observing whether we have fulfilled what we have promised. Because those people who have trusted us will stop doing so. And when a situation like this is repeated over and over again, we lose the trust of the person who made the promise to us. And on these occasions is when we hear the famous phrase: “I don’t believe you anymore, but don’t get angry.”

And there’s really no reason to get upset because If we want them to trust our promises again, all we will have to do is start fulfilling them.

What if I made a promise but can no longer keep it?

It is also true that Sometimes we promise something, but life circumstances – which are beyond our control – can prevent us from fulfilling our promise.. And the thing is that promises are to be made in the future, and this cannot be predicted.

Therefore, if any eventuality arises that prevents or delays the fulfillment of our word, The ideal is that we communicate it to the other as soon as possible. And, from there, negotiate or offer alternatives. Thus, our word will continue to maintain its value.

Not keeping what you promise has consequences, avoid them

Ultimately, not keeping what you promise has consequences. Although it may seem very easy to get rid of a commitment by sending a text message five minutes before what was agreed, this lack of words affects the other person and it affects you.

You will probably generate anger, resentment and disappointment in the other party. But you will also be violating your integrity so your self-esteem and sense of coherence will also be affected.

Therefore, think before you promise and learn to say “no” if there are favors that you know you will not be able to fulfill. It is better to be clear from the beginning than to try to please and end up looking bad.

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