Pro-love: 4 attitudes to avoid conflicts in relationships –

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Knowing how to communicate is what builds healthy and solid relationships, in which each partner is able to express their personality and accomplish what they want to be – and make the other – happy. It’s also dialogue (talking and listening without aggression or turning the conversation into a battle to see who has the last word) that keeps each partner from going off to one side after a fight. It may seem obvious, but not everyone thinks about it, much less puts it into practice. want to build one pro-love dialogue? the psychologist Suzana Salvadorfrom São Paulo, suggests a list of attitudes to avoid and mitigate conflicts.

1. Avoid the messages

Talking on WhatsApp or Facebook is a delight to always feel close to your love, but leave it to fight and make joint decisions personally. The lack of eye-to-eye interaction opens up gaps for misunderstandings.

2. Think Before You Speak

To demonstrate your dissatisfaction and claim something, say, for example, “I wish you would pay more attention to what I say”, instead of “You never listen to what I say”.

3. Leave it to discuss the relationship at home

Arguing in public places, at other people’s houses or at lunch on Sundays, with the family together, is not a good idea. In addition to being horrible, it doesn’t let you vent the way you’d like.

4. Focus on the moment

When a fight arises, avoid bringing up past, unresolved conflicts. This only makes things worse – and try to use balance so that the discussion does not turn into a scandal or a downgrade.