Perspecticide, a technique widely used by manipulators

Manipulation is the result of different strategies that seek to condition the behavior of the other without them being aware of what is happening. It is closely related precisely to seeing the other as an object that we can manipulate. In this case, we will talk about one of the most extreme communication techniques, it is the so-called perspecticide.

What exactly does this mental manipulation technique consist of? We talked about how it works and how to detect that we are being manipulated.

What is perspecticide?

The word perspecticide is a neologism, although it has been used for a long time to refer to brainwashing of prisoners of war. In addition, this term has also been used to explain the psychological mechanisms that cause people to end up “trapped” in sects.

Consequences of perspecticide are the loss of perspective, even cultivating the thought that we do not have the right, because we are not valid, to have our own opinions. Thus, through this phenomenon, we can lose our own perspective and forget what it is that we believe for ourselves..

Thus, we end up adopting the ideas, goals or objectives of the person who is trying to dominate us. As a result of all this, we renounce our desires and needs and even end up losing one’s own identity or one’s own sense of “I”. As we will see, perspecticide is a technique widely used by manipulators.

How does perspecticide work?

The phenomenon of perspecticide entails a abusive relationship, control, dominance and manipulation by one person towards another (or towards a group of them). With the passage of time, the person who suffers perspecticide, that is, the “victim”, ends up changing their way of thinking and acting, influenced and even dominated by the person who acts on them.

Thus, the manipulator (the one who commits perspecticide) ends up defining the world of the person he or she subjugates. He determines and decides how she should think and act and of course the relationship that is configured between the two.

As we see, it is not a mutual or two-way influence in the relationship, in which the two parties exercise their dominance or their “role”; In this case, we are talking about a unidirectional relationship of submission, control and dominance. That is, from one of the parties (manipulator) to another (victim or subject person).

Restricts the victim’s world

The manipulator, progressively, ends up “brainwashing” his victim, until it completely loses its identity and ends up acting as the first one wishes. The subject loses even his ability to decide, since the manipulator gradually restricts his world.

Thus, the victim is gradually confined in an increasingly smaller environment, and is isolated towards the world of the other. What consequences does this have? That the person cannot receive support, help or feedback of what is happening by the people around her (because she is increasingly isolated).

In short: her loved ones cannot warn her of the danger she is in. What the manipulator does is impose your own vision of the world and your ideasand this is what ends up being significant in the victim’s world.

Perspecticide strategies

Perspecticide can occur in relationships as well as in relationships of friendship, family and of course, in sects. Some of the strategies or actions used by the person carrying out the perspecticide are the following:

He obsessively controls the victim. He is the one who sets the terms and “rules” of the relationship. He “decides” how the victim should spend his time (and with whom). He changes the victim’s self-concept and even his way of being.

Am I suffering perspecticide?

Do you have doubts about whether or not you are really suffering from a perspecticide process? We leave you some warning signs that could be indicating that you are being subjected to this phenomenon by a manipulator:

You feel increasingly insecure in your decisions. You feel like you are losing your reference points. You no longer recognize yourself. You feel unable to achieve things on your own. You apply negative labels to yourself. You begin to doubt yourself. your own opinions and abilities.

In order to say that we suffer perspecticide, all of these “symptoms” or warning signs are felt as a result of manipulation, domination or control by another person. That is, they are born as a result of these interactions with others, it is not that you feel that way “just because.”

If you suffer from any of these symptoms and have someone close to you who you believe is manipulating you, ask for help and get away from this relationship as soon as possible. It is not easy to get out of the “claws” of a manipulator, but identifying these signs and becoming aware of what is happening is the first step to do so.

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