Happiness is in me: the value of taking care of what you have

Take care of what makes you happy, what puts a smile on your face, immerses you in a sea of ​​calm and invites you to disconnect from the web of everyday life. What makes your skin crawl, makes you jump for joy and invites you to be better, but also what makes you learn and grow personally.

We waste so much time throughout our lives that sometimes we forget to take care of what is important.: those details, moments and people that give us doses of happiness, wisdom, tranquility and love, a lot of love, despite the setbacks, the rains and the dark clouds.

But they will not always be there, everything will not always happen as we expect. and this can frustrate us, although it also makes us see everything we had and did not know how to take advantage of. It teaches us to value, to differentiate what is valuable from what is temporary… Therefore, Take care of what makes you happy and don’t leave it for later.

The false security of “tomorrow”

We are experts in postponing, in leaving for later or for later. We trust that nothing will change, neither the experiences nor the people. The point is that no matter how much security we think we have, uncertainty is more real than all our expectations and assumptions combined. We can’t be sure of anything.

Maybe tomorrow we will never see our partner, our mother, father or brother again… Maybe that friend with whom we share so much will change her life and in a few weeks she will leave for another destination or we may have our days numbered in our work, city or neighborhood… Maybe it doesn’t happen anymore, but the passage of time brings changes, losses and gains. We can’t forget it.

It is not bad to wait, patience also has its virtues, but When it comes to feelings, bonds and relationships, it is better to express everything we keep inside us. More because one day it may be too late.

“Thank you”, “I’m sorry”, “I love you” or “how good you are for me!” They are expressions that increase their value when they go outside for two simple reasons:

They express recognition. When we say them to someone, they implicitly convey the message that they are important to us and we value their company, their way of being, and not just what they do for us, even when we ask for forgiveness.They strengthen bonds. Giving and receiving affection and appreciation consolidates relationships from authenticity and love. It is a way of caring through the recognition of feelings and tightly sewing the threads that bind us to the other person.

However, Nor can we forget that time is running out for us too, to do what we have on our to-do list and that makes us happy. Whether it’s reading a novel, visiting that country we want so much, starting that project that comes from our hearts, letting ourselves be carried away by music and dancing or playing the piano… Therefore, let’s not forget to reserve a few minutes or a few hours for what we love. like it and that it gives us so many beautiful moments.

The problem of focusing on what you lack

One of our biggest problems is that We focus more on what we lack and want, than on what we have around us. Think about it.

We observe the world from a negative filter that is responsible for identifying everything that we do not have, instead of being grateful for what we do have. Thus, it is normal for our bad days, disappointments or that feeling that we always have something left to win…

This happens because Our brain has a certain tendency towards negativity, due to its long history to guarantee our survival. It is an evolutionary question that, today, is a bit outdated in some situations, although not in all, of course. The good thing is that by knowing that it exists we can take it into account.

How about we give this habit a spin? What would happen if every day we spent a few minutes identifying everything that is good for us? Do the test.

The happiness of small details

No great acts or sacrifices are necessary to recognize the value of everything that does us good. Often, it is the small details that make the difference, those that exude attention, understanding and affection, those that give us calm, peace and tranquility, that connect us with the present, love and our interior.

A good morning when you wake up, a call to ask how you are, smiles, caresses, hugs or simply a silence that accompanies bad days are very powerful gestures that give happiness. Also the aroma of coffee or rain while you read a book near the window, the pleasure of walking through your favorite place or simply the possibility of resting after an exhausted and stressful day.

Sometimes the simplest is the most valuable and we are not even able to perceive it. Quite the opposite: we insist on pursuing happiness down the wrong paths, without realizing that it is closer than we think.

The key? Our attitude. If we accept once and for all that we have a lot around us to be grateful for and feel good about, if we insist on seeing beyond our negative filter and if we begin to recognize the time of others as well as our own as valuable, You will begin to take another perspective.

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