Party: Tips for resolving guest list drama

The guest list is one of the crucial steps in organizing the party, as it is from it that future expenses are defined, the space where the event will be held, the type of menu and attractions. As much as the parents’ desire is to invite all their friends and family, the budget for the event does not always allow for such a comprehensive list.

And when it comes to the family, leaving the list dry becomes an even more complex challenge. “Be realistic about your event. Ask yourself how many people can fit in the space for the party. How much can you invest in the event? From then on, decide who is close enough to be included in the list”, suggested events advisor Isadora Ribeiro. She also reminds hosts not to give in to pressure from family members to include names on the list.

The secret to celebrating without regrets is to prioritize family members and friends who spend more time with the child and, in some way, participate in his or her life. “I’m not a fan of this idea of ​​’inviting out of politeness’. The birthday party is a unique moment for the family and should involve loved ones who are really part of the child’s life. Filling a hall with people that the birthday person doesn’t know makes the experience of the party cold and distant for the child, ”she explains.

But, truth be told, sometimes it’s really hard to leave some names off the list. Faced with the impossibility of reducing the number of guests, the only alternative is to redesign the event. “It’s better to save on decorated sweets and souvenirs, for example, than to go into debt to throw a luxurious party for many people. I always advise parents to adapt the event to their financial reality”, said Isadora, emphasizing that the experience of the party cannot be ruined by large debts after the event.

One option is to split the celebration. A little party at school, gathering all the little friends, and a smaller one, at home, just for the family. “Parties at school are practical and economical, but require greater care from parents. You need to talk to the school management to find out the rules and check with the teacher if any student has dietary restrictions”, advises the advisor. The consultant also reminds parents that common sense is needed. “Soft drinks, fried foods and processed foods should be replaced by juices and healthier foods. Avoid foods that may cause discomfort with other parents, ”she advises.