Overcoming fears in seven reflections

Fear is one of the basic and inevitable emotions of human beings and has proven to be very useful in terms of survival., because it has helped us react to a real threat. For example, it has helped us prepare our muscles to move quickly or made us stay completely still until the threat passes.

Instead, those fears, those psychological terrors that prevent us from taking action and limit us in various ways are what we must learn to manage. Let’s reflect on it.

In this hurried society, the word “happiness” is becoming such an obsession that it is common to find people constantly dissatisfied or experiencing anxiety when faced with the word success.

The fear of the verb “lose” becomes increasingly evident as we delve into social models in which “having” defines “being.” This leads to developing an absurd fear of not giving the appropriate image that we mistakenly believe we have to give.

We must try see beyond the supposed imminent loss we imagine and act despite the fear. In other words: if we recognize that we are afraid, we can avoid living manipulated by it and take actions that help us live and live with fear.

The immense value of doing things even if you feel afraid

If we wait until we are not afraid, we will always delay the behaviors or decisions that would benefit us so much. Furthermore, the fact of e xstate out loud questions like: “When I’m not afraid, I will do it” often causes us to adopt other paralyzing excuses such as: “I’m tired“, “I have no time” and “I think I’m sick”. And that definitely does not help us to be brave and take action.

It is difficult to do things with fear, but it is necessary to learn to do it so as not to live paralyzed, letting what we want slip out of our hands.

So that this does not become so difficult for us, it is very useful to understand how important it is to do what we have (and want) to do even when we feel afraid and the benefits that this would mean for us. One of them is that our stress levels would be reduced.

If we run from our demons, they will always haunt us

It is not about trying to eliminate fearful thoughts from our minds or acting as if they are not there, but accept those “monsters” or what is the same, learn to live with them.

If we accept threatening thoughts, they lose strength. On the other hand, if we deny them, then we give them importance and they will persecute us. As Carl Jung said: “what you deny subdues you, what you accept transforms you.”

Let us not resist fear and go through the doors of our little hells to assume control of our life, mastery of the mind and experience of reality.

The fear of the unknown

It is often said that we are afraid of the unknown, but when we say “unknown” we are referring to preconceived ideas that we have formed about it, that is, to a known idea. Death, for example, is a fear of a known idea that has been programmed in our brains since we were children.

What really makes us feel fear and anxiety is the idea of ​​losing what we know, of being left without everything we possess (including life). Hence the anticipatory and threatening thoughts that increase this fear emotion.

Living with our demons is a matter of communication and creativity

Expressing fears, talking to trusted people, and even doing something creative with them, is one of the best ways we can learn to live without them persecuting and tormenting us.

By “communicating” we mean carrying out different activities, such as: writing, singing, painting, creating… Expressing shadows makes us feel less and less restless. After all, Shadows can also remind us that sunlight exists.

Social fear, our misunderstood belonging

If we spend our lives trying to fit in, we may eventually succeed and disappear forever. This is going to be another of the fears that have been instilled in us: that misunderstood need to belong.

The fear of not fitting in, not belonging to a group and disappointing others leads to great self-demand, to not realize our own qualities and make us not take responsibility for ourselves, for our minds. Therefore, we must try to leave social fear behind, even when this is not always easy.

Our insecurity

Since uncertainty and doubt (necessary to learn) make us afraid, what we do is look for permanence, something that lasts us forever. Here we begin to add more suffering to suffering.

We must understand that everything in life involves changes and that we cannot “catch” anything forever.

Once we put aside this search for security, we lift such a weight off our shoulders that we begin to live the minute, without fear of what may have happened before or what will come next. Then we can fully live the experiences, whether bad or good, without generating garbage in the brain, without escape or pride.

Another different issue is the adrenaline that produces controlled fear. In an investigationOn, Glenn Sparks concluded that what really gives pleasure is the feeling after a scary movie or a roller coaster. Knowing that it is a Controlled fear, emotion, acts in this case as a seductive adrenaline surge. Thanks to that fear, we can then have the pleasant sensation that will “hook us on that fear.”

The fear of ourselves

Psychological fear, not the one that protects us, but the one that prevents us from living in harmony, is born from thought. Let’s live with fear (let’s not try to pretend that we don’t feel it, because that would be pretending), without it taking control of our lives.

Let’s give life to what we talk about, let’s embrace without distance, let’s roar when we have to roar, let’s not go like the ostrich bowing our heads, accepting all the annoyances, everything that is not in our hands, old age, death… because we are not impregnable , because We are not just our body or our education, nor those fantasies that we sometimes think, we are warriors of today.

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