Our love does not have to be perfect, it is enough that it is true

Love cannot be defined, because to define is to limit and love has no limits. Perfection does not exist, not even in love. However, it is important to aspire to achieve the best, the most satisfying and what makes us feel good.

Let’s say that in these matters we do not have to settle, but rather we have to work to be honest with ourselves and our feelings. Enjoying full and true love requires prior internal work which can be complicated. To do this, we must get rid of all the ties that our previous ideas contain.

There are no better halves, they cannot complement us, we are not anyone’s life nor do we have to aspire to be. This is complicated because, as we have commented on other occasions, it clashes with the hyperromantic ideas that we have been absorbing from Disney stories and Hollywood films.

What is unhealthy is not attachment, intense affection or inclination towards a person, but hyper-attachment, that is, the need and dependence on the other to fulfill ourselves.

So, We must understand that we cannot burden anyone with the responsibility of completing ourselves., to alleviate our shortcomings or to resolve our conflicts. Only then will we understand what we can really expect from true love.

True love, the pillar of our well-being

An unhealthy love is one in which we lose direction, our own identity and our relationships. for being immersed in “look after” of a feeling that absorbs us. This is not perfect love, although we have been sold that this beautiful feeling has to be so intense whenever it forces us to change our universe.

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Nor is true love one that does not have problems or that does not argue.but rather the one who is capable of solving their differences or living with those aspects that are unsolvable. Healthy affection and love teach you to listen to the knowing glances, to kiss the caresses and to hold tightly to the reality of being happy.

Love needs a place to rock, sleep and shelter. It needs you to exist, because if you don’t love yourself you won’t be able to love. And, in turn, it needs the other to be able to fulfill itself. Both parts are essential.

“In the end you realize that the small is always more important. The conversations at three in the morning, the spontaneous smiles, the disastrous photos that make you laugh out loud, the ten-word poems that bring a tear to your eye. The books that no one else knows about and become your favorites, a flower that you put in your hair, a coffee that you drink alone… That is what is truly worth it; the tiny things that cause gigantic emotions.”

-Between letters and caffeine-

True love is built daily

A real love, not a movie one, is built every day without laws and without schedules. A loyal love is not one that knows everything about you, but one that does not need to know and respects your privacy. It can understand your past and your present and is not blinded.

It is the one who is not betrayed, the one who is not hurt, the one who is not abandoned. True love is the one that doesn’t say goodbye because it doesn’t leave, the one who gives security and not fear, the one who offers confidence and no doubts.

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Sincerity is based on the respect of rediscovering our partner’s virtues and defects every day, to appreciate the small details and to immerse ourselves in the daily life of the permanence of love. The confidence of knowing that there is a place where, even if the world falls apart, you can be safe and protected.

True love does not require forming a perfect team, but rather a strong and determined one.

Perfect love is impossible, but true love does exist. He is the one who is known for what he offers and not for what he demands. The one who brings a smile to the soul, the one who does not submit. In short, a love of whole oranges with their juice and without a juicer.