Some say that being single is not synonymous with loneliness. It’s true, you don’t need another person to be happy, because happiness is inside you; in your projects and in your achievements, in your health and in your family.

On the other hand, I’ve heard happy people say that they would like to have someone, a love to share life and dreams with. And they explain that they are alone for lack of options, because it is increasingly difficult to find someone who is willing to love and to have a relationship.

With the exception of confirmed singles, those people who have chosen not to have a commitment to someone, those who have not yet found their partner usually feel a certain confusion when sadness invades them. And the more time passes, love becomes a disappointment.

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The problem is that disillusionment closes the door to new possibilities. At the end of the day, used to returning home alone, to your bed where there is no laughter or voices, only the silence of distant stars, you settle down. And you also ask yourself “What’s wrong with me?”.

You lose sleep, you lose time you could enjoy while drowning in doubts. Your blank page awaits you, but you hesitate. It’s… it’s scary.

Check it out. Love requires courage and willingness. Loving is daring. If you’re not willing to make a relationship work, it may not even start.

On the other hand, when you meet someone interesting, if you go to the pot too thirsty, you end up suffocating the one who can’t manage your expectations and your affective lack. Therefore, you need to let things happen naturally.

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It may seem paradoxical, but the bond between two people must come from their detachment, of an independence of the two, but without individualism. Because in the increasingly individualistic world we live in, where we are losing each other and even our own desires, we are getting used to superficial and quick relationships, which camouflage the essence of love. We are even running the risk of giving up on love.

It is true that this maturity requires effort and understanding. And as much as you want to have someone’s company, you also already know what you don’t want.

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Don’t allow yourself to surrender to someone who doesn’t listen to your desires and doesn’t care about your life, and who doesn’t laugh with you at the crazy things you think. What you’re looking for is someone to push you forward, someone worth not being single for.

In the meantime, focus on the work and travel you want to take. Read poems even without fully understanding them. Try to look them in the eyes more often. Do physical exercises regularly. Practice patience. Practice patience again. Take care of your pet. Laugh until you cry. Then cry until your chest stops hurting.

Save your heart. There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s also nothing wrong with wanting someone who feels the simplicity of life between the lines, an imperfect being like you. and that it awakens in you the desire to be a better person every day.

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It’s okay if other people don’t understand why you’re selective. As long as selectivity doesn’t stop you from realizing that love is possible. Trust your choices. Be spontaneous. Talk to God. He is the only one who knows every piece of your heart.

One day you’ll know… One day someone will come into your life and make you understand why you’ve been alone until now.