Omnipotence or sitting in ten chairs at the same time

Feeling powerful is a very healthy quality for all humans. It is feeling self-valued, with strength and energy to carry out projects. Feeling powerful motivates us.

However, Some devalued people immerse themselves in mechanisms in which they believe they can do anything. They are everywhere, they are omnipresent in our own actions and, fundamentally, those of others. Thus they generate an entourage of needy people, whom they supply by sitting in every chair they place.

Know our limits

Capacities and strengths are part of the personal power involved in coping with situations, whether they are problematic when it comes to solving them or not. Therefore, Feeling powerful when facing an experience refers to self-esteem or rather depends on it.

Someone who has good self-esteem is self-aware of their abilities…. but he also knows his limitations, that is, what he can and what he cannot. Thus, while the person feels powerful, they feel self-valued (and also valued by others). The problem arises when personal limits are exceeded and omnipotence is entered.

Omnipotence is the tacit or explicit belief of thinking that anything is possible. In fact, many not only do things for themselves, but also for others. They are the ones who, when faced with a simple comment from a friend, an acquaintance, a family member, activate a brain chip to think about how it is possible to give a hand to another.

They are also the ones who get on-call pharmacies, electricians, specialist doctors, exotic foods, a piece of unfindable machinery, have the right advice or are eager to help others. They are the ones who, in the middle of summer with 40 degrees in the shade and having the afternoon free, accompany someone – relevant or not in their life – to carry out a procedure in the heart of the city, when they could stay taking a nap with air conditioning.

It is not about not helping the friend who asks for help, it is about The omnipotent always can, which is why they never say NO, they are devoted to YES above all.

They are a mixture (within the classification already presented in another article about failed forms in search of valuation), of devalued Siístas and Yotodolopuedo. People who can do anything are loved and valued -somehow this is the goal they pursue-, although they do not belong to the group of the omnipotent who boast of their capabilities.

There are many opportunities in which Omnipotence is confused with pride. Even the label of omnipotent is placed on someone who boasts about what he can, or what he knows, or what he does; but this is not necessarily reflected in their actions.

The omnipotent are not boastful

Braggards consciously believe that they can do anything. Now, that is not having good self-esteem, but rather egomania, that is, idolization itself. This is closer to pedantry and arrogance, although it could well be typical of delusional behavior.

They are also arrogant omnipotents who try to monopolize dialogues, giving themselves a small-time shine, in addition to being absolutely egoistic. In their dialogues, which turn out to be monologues, you hear them say “because I / I once / you know that I…”, even though the interlocutor is talking about some personal topic.

Proud, arrogant, humble, falsely modest, overestimated, egomaniacal, boastful, ostentatious, petulant are some specimens of the human fauna, who try in various ways to seek recognition and defend themselves in the face of their strong feelings of disability. They appear omnipotent, but they are not omnipotent in their actions.: they honor the expression “giants with feet of clay.” They show that they can do everything, but they do not reflect it when it comes to acting.

All these characters are false omnipotents, because The real ones do not show off their actions or brag. The real ones do in silence, they develop multiple actions because doing and being in everything is part of their personal and relational style.

Now, let us remember that forms, actions and expressions, which are systematized in life, end up forming a personality style. At first, they may have been created as an attempt to seek appreciation from the outside, but after years they became a style of acting. Thus, the omnipotent are not aware of what they are doing until someone alerts them and many times it is the space of psychotherapy that points out this mechanism.

These forms of the omnipotent devalued lead them to become controlling. All details must go through their supervision, since they maintain the belief that they are the only ones who have the capacity to carry out any task in an ideal manner.

They become, then, omnipresent, they are found everywhere displaying their capabilities. Strictly speaking, it is not that these omnipotents do not have resources, but quite the opposite. Like every human being, They have skills that they develop effectively, and we could affirm that they are very capable people, both in doing things for themselves and for others. They have only one butt, but they sit on numerous chairs at the same time.

Apparently, the omnipotent move autonomously and independently in all their social circles. But There is nothing more dependent than an omnipotent. Beneath his facade of strength lies an insecure personality with a certain amount of fragility and, above all, with numerous fears of being disqualified.

All of these features are in the service of not really showing off. How much helplessness and devaluation must there be in the substratum of the person to need to show the world so much omnipotence!

One of the problems that this type of omnipotent attitude generates interactionally is abuse. The omnipotent builds a circle of needy dependents who feed on what he does for them, since An omnipotent person does not help solve the other’s problem, he takes care of the other’s problem. Then it stops being someone else’s problem and becomes your own problem.

This army of dependents little by little shapes the beginning of the abuse, to the extent that the omnipotent paves the way for their desires and expectations. Therefore, These dependents end up being abusive of the characteristics and actions of the omnipotent partner.

The treacherous image to exemplify would be a woman with her breasts overflowing with milk offering to breastfeed… since she will always find needy babies to suckle her.

However, The main abuse that the omnipotent suffers is not from others towards himself, but rather that which he or she inflicts on himself or herself. with their attitudes.

Therefore, being ourselves, genuinely helping others, is a healthy and functional way of acting, but Omnipotence is a defense that must be modified in order to heal relationships, de-stress, take charge of one’s own problems and know that each person must be responsible for where they feel…

So: What chairs do you really want to sit in?

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