Masochistic personality: when the problem is me

A person with a masochistic personality thinks that problems are their fault.. But, not the problems that may occur only around him, but also problems in which he has nothing to do.

Surely you are familiar with a situation in which someone implies that someone is to blame. The person with a masochistic personality would immediately recognize the problem, even if he was not the direct culprit.

Since the masochistic person will always feel guilty, will reconstruct situations in which she will inevitably be hurt. She will seek that damage that she believes she deserves, even if she does not.

Traits of a masochistic personality

Maybe right now you are wondering if you have some of this masochistic personality, or if someone close to you is. The truth is that it is not very easy to identify them, unless we are ourselves.

Masochistic people carry that guilt inside and, sometimes, many people use them to blame them that are not true.

What characteristics does a person with a masochistic personality present?

They blame themselves for everythingthey always think “it’s my fault, I deserve the punishment.” When they are close to achieving success they boycott themselves so that things go wrong. Instead of celebrating pleasurable situations, they belittle them. They construct their misfortunes, seeking pain and seeking the role of victim.They sacrifice to feel usefulThey are falsely humble, because they have a narcissistic component. They live in fear that there will always be a tragic end to everything.

Masochistic people live surrounded by fear, insecurity and are very dependent.but not in the sense in which we see dependence, but in the sense that they need someone to witness their sacrifices.

In reality, this personality believes that his life should be like that of a martyr. Submitting to others, sacrificing yourself is what will bring you happiness tomorrow. But… they never reach it.

Lack of selfishness, thinking too much about others, doubting everything about oneself, make it a very insecure person who seeks suffering, pain and guilt to feel good.

Free yourself from suffering

After identifying what a masochistic personality is like, it is time for you to consider whether you are really happy acting like this. It’s true that helping others and sometimes sacrificing yourself makes you feel good. But to be guilty of everything? Allow you to suffer so that others can be happy?

You’re not being happy, are you?? In fact, the day will come when you find yourself in a very deep hole from which you will want to get out, but you will not be able to. Nobody will think about you. They will only continue to hurt you.

While you watch over your suffering, other people will take that to make you suffer more. If you don’t worry about being happy, being well, no one else will.. You should worry about yourself. Being a martyr will not make you happy.

Think about yourself for a moment. You’re not doing anything wrong! Practice being a little selfish, thinking about yourself and you will see how you will feel better. What’s more, you will even open your eyes to that reality that you have created yourself.

You are not a bad person. If you suffer, if you submit, if you give everything, how can you continue to feel guilty? Free yourself from that guilt that resides only in you. You are to blame for that suffering because you allow it..

We all seek happiness, even you. Of course there will be situations in which we have to suffer, but this is not a maxim for every day! Be a little selfish, think about yourself and be sure of yourself.

Don’t allow yourself to make yourself feel guilty about everything, don’t allow yourself to think that you are a bad person for not giving everything for others. You are worth a lot. You have to think about yourself. No one deserves to take advantage of your personality to hurt you even more. You are here to be happy, you are not in this world to suffer.

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