Living with an emptiness in your heart

Have you ever felt an emptiness in your heart? You may lead a normal, full and even happy life. You have what every day helps you maintain a normal existence without excessive worries…

However, There is something that suddenly emerges in those moments when you look in the mirror. and you take that look inside yourself. There is something wrong, something that overwhelms you and envelops you with a feeling halfway between sadness and despair.

It is a void in the heart. Sometimes it takes the form of frustration, the highlight of everything you wanted to have done or achieved and that, for whatever reason, could never be. It also usually happens that said abyss in the heart has the silhouette of something or someone you lost, but also, and it is undeniable, said gap responds to an existential void that is difficult to translate into words.

Is this what life had in store for me? Is this all I really wanted for myself, or is something more waiting around the corner? What sense does that dimension we call “life” really have?

An emptiness in the heart, a current problem

When you hear the word “existential emptiness,” you may think of those people who undertake journeys of self-realization to India.

But the dimension of the issue goes further. It is an emotional problem and even a real crisis of values where suddenly, everything begins to be questioned.

Previously we gave the example of people who lead an apparently normal life until one day a trigger arises that calls that placid existence into question. You may lose someone you love and have these questions. about the meaning of life, about why we are only brief passengers in a life that is sometimes too short.

The emptiness in the heart can also bear the name of that emotional relationship that you could not keep. or that it simply hurt you too much to heal again. They are states that can turn into a sharp and painful craving. We feel adrift, lost in a meaningless reality. As in a book without letters.

Logotherapy, the meaning of one’s life

There is a very interesting psychotherapeutic theory developed by a disciple of Freud called logotherapy. Its author, Viktor Frankl

His theoretical perspective was based on the idea that people need daily motivation, of a kind of “will to meaning” and a faith towards a better future where we can commit ourselves to some purpose. If we feel useful and motivated we advance in that vital transcendence far from the void, far from the abyss of existential not knowing.

Meaning is what every human being seeks. There are people, for example, who are not clear about the purpose that motivates them; they forgot it in the past when, for example, they suffered that loss, that abandonment. That betrayal or that “not knowing”. They do their job, with their family, with their friends, letting themselves go on autopilot… but something goes wrong.

What can we do? How does one find meaning? Logotherapy tells us that we must seek self-knowledge, expressiveness and creativity, We must know what values ​​identify us. It is essential that we find something to motivate ourselves every day, to be brave, to know how to smile, to bring happiness to those around us. And continue growing as people.

If you are afraid, you don’t move forward. If you have doubts, look for the answers in yourself. Get motivated, transform your reality, leaving anguish aside. The journey to get out of that void in your heart can be an adventure worth living with all the intensity.

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