Less complaints, more life

If your illness has a remedy, why do you complain? If you don’t have it, why are you complaining??

(Eastern proverb)

Life brings with it difficult moments when it is healthy to vent with a close friend or family member we completely trust. However, sometimes It seems like complaining is our favorite hobby.

We complain because it is cold, but also because it is hot, because yes and because no, to the point where complaining becomes a habit by which we begin to distinguish ourselves, like a personal seal that we stamp on our existence and that accompanies us for the rest of our days.

Complaining will always be easy, the complicated thing is assuming responsibilities in the face of said complaint. That is to say: If the problem has a solution, we simply do what needs to be done; If it doesn’t have it, well, we let it pass, as the Eastern proverb indicates. There is no point in wasting away on something useless that is beyond our control.

When we walk light through life, carrying only what is essential, even if we don’t believe it, It is much easier to be happy, since we generate a plus: we are going to positively affect peoples that surround us.

With the complaint, we place ourselves in the position of victims and the more we feed it, the more we will assume that role, so we freeze in front of the problem and solve nothing. This prevents us from knowing and developing our potential to the fullest.

Why do we complain?

In general, When we complain it is because we suffer and we think that there is no solution to our problems. For example, we are not satisfied with our appearance, we do not have the job that we long for, nor the car that the neighbor does have, or the money or resources that we believe we need so much, etc.

But if we really want to change this repetitive and unhealthy situation, The first thing we must do is stop thinking so much and, instead, act more. In the background, much of what we would like to have does not satisfy the true need that afflicts us.

Now, wouldn’t it be valid to ask “what are my real needs”? How many things that you acquired last year did you think were essential and then you realized they weren’t? Maybe they ended up becoming something decorative or gathering dust somewhere in the house; That is why when you answer this question, you must do so thoroughly.

What is my need? What is the purpose of the complaint? Ask yourself and reflect on it.

Start now!

Maybe what you want is not the object itself, but the sensation associated with it, that is, well-being.

It may also be that what you long for is very difficult to obtain. Don’t be discouraged. It is not that it is impossible to achieve, it is just that you have to divide the objective into several stages and achieve each one until you reach the goal..

For example, you’re frustrated that you can’t take a trip that takes you across the entire country, but maybe you could visit a couple of cities for now. You can achieve this.

Rest assured that this way you will be beginning to solve the problem that generates the complaint and you will be channeling your energies into something productive for you, which will make you feel much better and without the desire to complain.

Stop blaming yourself and give yourself a chance. Start now: try it for two weeks, you will be surprised with the results. Nobody says it will be easy, but it will be the best for you. So let’s do it!