Generally, the term responsibility has been defined as something that entails an obligation. Therefore, it gives the impression that it is a charge when in reality we should not understand it that way. Being responsible is then the ability to respond to actions, the ability to make decisions for oneself.
It is the commitment that we must acquire through our actions. Seen this way, Being responsible will not mean carrying a burden, but rather a liberation. Because being responsible for your actions allows you to be aware of what you do, not blame others in vain and learn if you make a mistake. Although many would not consider this a positive thing, the truth is that it is. Well, these characteristics are essential for our personal growth.
“Everyone is responsible for what happens to them and has the power to decide what they want to be. What you are today is the result of your past actions. What you will be tomorrow is the result of your actions today.”
-Swami Vivekananda-
Transform any problem into an opportunity
Being responsible for our actions makes us master of them. With this perspective we are allowed to move forward and transform any problem into an opportunity. Any circumstance possible. Personal responsibility is what makes us main actors in our lives.
For example, we attribute our partner’s infidelity as the culprit for the depression we are going through. Our partner is responsible for his infidelity, true, but we are responsible for the negative evaluation of ourselves “I’m unattractive”, “I’m worthless”).
That is to say, where we can act is where we should use our energies, it will be useless to lament or blame others. To continue, we must realize that we are owners of today’s situations and those to come. Concepts such as performance, freedom and respect are linked to responsibility and commitment.
“I am responsible for my thinking, feeling and acting, whether I like it or not, there are no guilty parties.”
-Elle Ferreira-
Likewise, how many times have we heard “look what you make me do” or “you made me angry”? We have been taught to always blame others and not be responsible for our own actions. We give power to other people that they don’t really have.. Because no one forces us to do anything, nor does anyone make us angry. We have the last word and if we accept, we are no longer being forced.
Freedom and being responsible go hand in hand
Performance and commitment have a directly proportional relationship: the greater the commitment, the greater the performance on the task. Freedom and responsibility go hand in hand, since one does not exist without the other. Freedom allows you to choose between several options and that choice allows the person to commit and be responsible for said choice.
Because it is a free choice and whatever is chosen, there will be a series of consequences for which only we will be responsible. Therefore, it is inconceivable that we can blame others or hold other people responsible for something that is not our concern.
Let us remember that responsibility comes from respect. By accepting oneself, the individual is able to take charge of his affairs with quality results.. Are you responsible for your actions? If not, learn to identify what is happening. Maybe you need to free yourself from certain learned beliefs. Perhaps, you need to relearn to see life from other prisms. Be responsible for your actions, because each of your choices are free.
“The greatest day of your life and mine is when we take full responsibility for our attitudes. “That’s the day we really grow up.”
-John C. Marwell-
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