Learn to unload your emotional backpack so that your life journey is lighter

Each one of us carries the weight of the situations we have experienced on our backs in the form of an emotional backpack. Its content is memories and experiences of different sizes that somehow we have not let go of and are reflected in our skin.

If we do not learn to empty our backpack of toxic and negative experiences, the more time passes, the more loaded it will be and the greater the weight we will have to bear, impacting our mood and relationships.

Carrying our emotional backpack without taking out what we carry inside from time to time generates emotional wounds that are important to heal.

The weight of our backpack

In today’s world we tend to overload ourselves, not only at work but also emotionally. Every experience we live leaves its mark in one way or another. The important thing is that this imprint serves to propel us and grow instead of generating chains that tie us to the past due to its emotional weight.

Moving forward with emotional wounds that open and hurt is not the same as moving forward with wounds that have been healed and have provided us with a learning opportunity.

The ghost of guilt, the feeling of betrayal or abandonment, critical voices, the voids of absences or the burden of frustration make up, among others, that weight that makes us walk slowly and prevents us from enjoying ourselves. Experiences that color and transform us, and that make up part of our history. But, How can we empty ourselves of it if there comes a time when it is part of us?

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Check your backpack and reflect on what you have inside, both what you have incorporated and what other people have deposited. Take your time. Even if you can’t see it, it is present in your daily life. Note that Many of your reactions have to do with the weight you carry: to alleviate it you will have to learn to differentiate between what helps you and what doesn’t. Carrying your overflowing backpack is a drag on any progress you intend to make.

Unload your emotional backpack to move forward

Don’t let your backpack become overloaded to the point where you can barely move and life in general weighs you down. Don’t lose the desire to move forward or leave your present at the hands of the past. Don’t be obsessed with forgetting either, because forgetting is no friend of intention.

No matter how uncomfortable and complicated it may be, you have to bring out what you have inside, to learn to grow with it instead of anchoring yourself. The first step is to recognize what causes our weight and accept it.

You may even be overwhelmed by a feeling of identity and attachment that prevents you, at first, from getting rid of the weight that makes up your emotional backpack. That vertigo is the masked fear resulting from routine, you have become so accustomed to those wounds that if they are missing it seems that you are nobody and a void is created. But believe me, it’s just the fear of uncertainty and the unknown: the fear of letting go.

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Learn to empty it by releasing everything that holds you prisoner of the past and exhausts you. Accept your mistakes, identify and know your emotions, give wings to your dreams, discover your strengths, value yourself and above all, learn that growing is accepting what happens to you and not fighting against it, but finding a lesson for it. Remember that sometimes letting go is not a simple goodbye but rather a thank you for what you have learned to continue moving forward.

Letting go of the paralyzing weight of our emotional backpack is a great step to allow other feelings and new experiences to enter, some will help us continue growing and others we will have to heal again, but that’s life. Get rid of the weight that paralyzes you for your own good and for the good of your back.

Main image courtesy of Lucy Campbell