Is there love at first sight?

Time stops for a few seconds, the heart speeds up, making our pupils dilate and we get nervous.. In that short period of time it seems that there is no one else around, even if 50 people are walking down the street. Someone has appeared who steals all our attention and who becomes our love at first sight.

At that moment, one person immerses himself in another. Between the two occurs a love that at that moment only materializes chemically within them, as if a strong gust of wind had hit them on a sunny day.

“Love is born from a crush; the friendship of frequent and prolonged exchange.”

-Octavio Paz-

Love at first sight, does it exist?

There are several answers to this question., although probably if you are reading this article you believe in the affirmative. Is it true that we can be “victims” of such a strong wave of momentary feelings or, on the contrary, is it our brain that deceives us?

Many people will think that love at first sight is not real and does not exist: in fact, Some scientific experiments assure that it is a set of memories, that return to us to intersperse with feelings of the moment. Love, in this case, is a perfect “collage” of things experienced and images of the present.

Others, like me or probably you – for the reason that I have told you before – will probably believe in the power of a first look or in how even a minimal detail can really awaken a universe in us. That is, we believe that yes, that love at first sight is real or, at least, there are those seconds of euphoria, energy and positivism that make the world seem like, literally, paradise.

“And suddenly we looked into each other’s eyes and we immerse ourselves in each other

and we were consumed.”

-Oscar Hahn-

And suddenly it happened

The phenomenon of love at first sight usually arises when absolutely nothing is expected. Let’s put ourselves in a situation that could be real: a while ago we ended a romantic relationship with an ex-partner and we are discovering ourselves. One day, suddenly, it happens.

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In the most unexpected place in the neighborhood or on a vacation trip, you run into someone and something activates inside you.. Who is it and why am I nervous? In a glance, more feelings seem to have materialized than in your last 5 months or, as Elvira would say, a lifetime.

“May life

a glance can last

in the middle of a storm.

And I assure you that that is a gift, it is more than enough.”

-Elvira Sastre-

Happens that, Sometimes, just by looking at someone we are sure that we have been with them forever. and, without knowing why, we wish it could be there. Thus, without knowing each other at all, as if we suddenly understood what Cortázar wanted to express with “It is enough for me to look at you to know that I am going to soak my soul with you.”

Today is always still

And then, what happens with love at first sight is that it can begin to be our love of today, our love of always still. Because yes, because it sounds like a romantic Sunday movie, but love at first sight too can become a lasting love, or perhaps eternal.

In fact, a crush is a kind of sudden and idealized infatuation that can lead to serious relationships: The key is to manage your feelings. and check that the other person has felt the same. If so, it could be a unique opportunity to meet someone again and a nice start.

On the other hand, if the outcome is not as wonderful as we seem to expect, we will always have the experience of having seen Cupid act in that way: The intensity of love at first sight is, without a doubt, one of the most irrational and complicit ways of feeling human..

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But…Is it really love at first sight?

Talking about love at first sight is complex. Is it really love that we feel or infatuation? The eternal debate on which experts are increasingly shedding more light. When we see someone who captivates us at first sight, an explosion of different factors occurs. On the one hand, it causes us a certain sexual excitement. On the other hand, we imagine having a date in which everything goes wonderfully. We also imagine what our life would be like next to that person. Somehow, We think that that person will bring us that happiness that we lack..

Love at first sight is nothing more than a projection of our desires and expectations onto another person. Although this does not mean that the meeting cannot end in a stable relationship. However, we must keep in mind that everything what we feel and what goes through our headsit is nothing more than a own construction. Therefore, to prevent some type of disappointment, it is best not to create low expectations and get to know the other person little by little.

In fact, in an investigation carried out by Zsok and Haucke (2017) They found that love at first sight was not love or passion, but rather a strong attraction that causes in each of the people the possibility of establishing a relationship.