Is love a choice?

Is love a choice? Do we choose who to love or do we end up giving our hearts to the first person who comes to us? This doubt very often crosses our minds for a reason. Fate places before us figures with whom, suddenly, we can fall madly in love. It’s as if we had no control over it, as if it were chance that pulled all the strings.

Is it really like that? The answer is no. It is true that sometimes we have the subtle feeling that it is providence that makes us meet that terribly attractive and special someone. Life brings us together, but we are the ones who have the last word and of course the decision. Doing it this way, knowing who is worth it and who is not, is an act of undoubted emotional maturity that we learn over time.

Love is not just something we find on the journey of life. It is a choice that we make consciously, intelligently and also bravely.. Let’s reflect on it.

Why is love a choice?

For much of our lives we think that love can be found. We tell ourselves it’s like suddenly connecting with someone and allowing our worlds to collapse with a (supposed) soul mate. However, as we mature, we become aware of something else. We can connect and experience a powerful attraction with that someone, but in the end we choose whether it is worth taking the step or not.

Because There are attractions that should remain in a prologue and not in a story. We choose not to move forward because we sense that the outcome could be fatal. We choose that certain people are not part of our heart because if we opened the doors to them, they would leave everything mixed up and even broken. Maturity and experience whisper to us that love is more than just a euphoric feeling.

It is a deliberate choice in which we understand that everything we do will be worth it, joy and hope.

Falling in love is easy but loving maturely requires effort

If we ask ourselves why love is a choice, it is necessary to understand one detail. Nothing is as easy as falling in love, sometimes it arises spontaneously; others over low heat and with daily friction. However, Once we go through those days of passion and effusiveness, the most decisive moment arrives: taking care of that relationship..

Authentic, mature and conscious love understands that Loving is an everyday exercise that requires effort and dedication.You choose to do it freely and commit yourself to that relationship body and soul because you want to keep that person by your side.What is not cared for withers and dies. When you find a special person, you assume the responsibility of nurturing that relationship so that it flourishes every day. Doing so is also a choice.

Real love sometimes asks us to do difficult things, to even make certain sacrifices. Not everything is easy, not everything runs smoothly and spontaneously. A relationship always requires efforts.

To love is to agree to an unconditional commitment with an imperfect person.

Love is a choice and those who do not understand it will fail in emotional matters. Not only do we decide whether or not that person is worth the risk, What we also do is commit to loving her for who she is.

Sooner or later, we become fully aware that affection must be unconditional, being clear that the person in front of us is not an ideal, he is not someone perfect, infallible and even less our other half.

Whoever shares life with us is someone imperfect, just like ourselves, someone with whom we can form a good team to reach agreements and grow together.

Beyond a feeling: wanting is a verb and it is an action

Falling in love, loving someone, being part of their life, caring, loving, listening, validating… All these dimensions are verbs and go beyond feelings and emotions. Because When we love someone, it is not enough to just feel it, we have to show it. through actions, daily work.

Love is a choice we make every day

True love is a choice we actually make every day. Life makes us meet certain people by chance, it is true, but it is we who make the decision to embark on that personal adventure and work on it. Thus, it is important to keep in mind that we reaffirm this commitment to each other every day. It is not something that is decided once and that’s it.

Love is provided daily. Every day we choose to stay committed to that journey and not give up.. Every second shared is a clear will to move forward, feeling that next to that special being, everything makes sense and everything is worth it. To love is to choose, let’s keep it in mind, and that task must always be rewarding and enriching…

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