In life there is time for everything, except to give up

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When we choose not to give up, our strengths are awakened, our emotions are ignited, and our will becomes stainless. Because that’s how we are, people capable of restarting ourselves as many times as necessary to move forward and achieve dreams.

It doesn’t matter which path we choose, the shortest or the longest. It doesn’t matter whether that path crosses a forest, a mountain, or borders a beach. In all of them we will find obstacles. Because life is a zigzag journey with periods of calm, with sunny days and moments of snowfall. But still, We are incapable of giving up, our will is inflexible and we rarely back down.

William Shakespeare pointed out that people are gardens and our will is the gardener that takes care of us. It is a great truth.

Within the psychology of motivation we know that no engine is as powerful as that energy that unites emotions, thoughts and behaviors towards the same purpose. Because There is no obstacle that can resist us if we act with confidence, remembering what we deserve..

Although let’s admit it, it is not always easy to act with this mental approach. Sometimes we forget about our psychological abilities and strengths..

There are times when we encounter unexpected turns in our destiny, those in which we feel that we no longer have control over our reality and mind, almost without knowing how it is filled with fears. How to handle those situations? How can we remember that vital obligation which is to never give up?

When we choose not to give up, we shine

In life, we have time and opportunities for almost everything.. To be happy and unhappy. To laugh and fall disconsolate. We love and hate, admire and distrust.

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Our traveling feet and our curious mind have taken us to multiple places, to new countries to experience unexpected sensations. We learn and unlearn. We correct mistakes and make new ones.

In this flow of life cycles and stages there is a companion that acts as co-pilot with us: willpower.. It is she who encourages us not to give up, she who takes the wheel in difficult situations to keep us afloat.

However, as we are told in a study carried out in the Maastricht University, the Netherlands , willpower sometimes weakens.

This psychological dimension is directly linked to emotions. And, as is evident, the spirit does not always accompany. There are days when anguish weighs too much, as does the ball of sadness and the labyrinth of frustration.

In those moments, it is easy to give up, to tell ourselves that nothing is worth it and that it is better to stay still, let the storm fall on us.

It is not appropriate. There is no need to give room for surrender -almost- no moment in our lives.

We must feed that willpower that prevents us from giving up.

As the APA explains to us ( American Psychological Association )most researchers define the willpower that prevents us from giving up as follows:

Ability to commit to ourselves and our well-being. Ability to deactivate unhelpful thoughts (such as, for example, the idea that I am going to fail) to give strength, instead, to those that allow us to focus on achievement. It involves your time, knowing how to regulate emotions. Understanding that fears, for example, act as vetoers when trying to overcome an obstacle, an adversity. It is understanding that willpower is a resource that is exhausted. We don’t always feel motivated. It is our responsibility to awaken and feed this psychological dimension daily.

Think you can: the key to self-efficacy

A mantra that is useful to not give up in difficult moments is to repeat to ourselves that we can do it. We have internal resources to overcome, to act, to resolve, to confront. It is true that no one has taught us to be strong, But sometimes, we discover that there is no other option than to get up and make our way.

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Albert Bandura already highlighted the importance of working on our self-efficacy. It is nothing other than confidence in one’s own ability to achieve something, to surpass ourselves and succeed. Bandura himself gave a very illustrative example of how this psychological dimension can help us.

Let’s imagine ourselves in a room where there is only one exit. It is a very old and rusty door locked. We have a hundred keys, old and rusty too, and among all of them is the one that will allow us to get out of there.

Self-efficacy is the security that sooner or later, we will find that key. It may take us a while and we may also have to try 99 of them until we find the right one.. But still, we don’t give up…

People who don’t give up smell like hope

Sometimes it is necessary to accept reality. There are times when giving up, when taking a step back or withdrawing from certain battles is not only the most appropriate thing to do; it may even be the healthiest. It’s true. However, 99% of the time we are forced to continue moving forward, to awaken courage and hope so as not to give up.

As they say, the worst battle is the one we do not dare to fight. Life gives us unforgettable moments, but Sometimes we go from calm to storm in just a few seconds.. And in those moments, there is no choice but to dress in the raincoat of hope and dance in the rain to wait for the sun to embrace us in the morning.

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Because there is always a tomorrow when we don’t give up, when we are bold and awaken our courage. Let’s keep it in mind.