If you need to insist, he doesn’t need you

I won’t insist that you like me. Maybe that sounds like a threat, but it’s not. It’s more like a white flag. I’m tired of competitive relationships, interest games, bruised pride and massaged ego. I don’t want to hide between the lines or support that showing what you feel is a sign of weakness.

If I don’t naturally “like” you, then maybe you don’t deserve me that much (or who knows, the opposite).

Of course, I’ve been on the other side, that of insistence. I molded myself to tastes, adapted to routine, to friends, and even repressed some profanity in front of him. I thought that was doing everything right, but in fact, little by little, I stopped being myself to disguise myself as the perfect girlfriend.

It turns out that perfection is utopia, what makes up the right is the balance of defects, and not pretending that they don’t exist. I’m human and I make mistakes, maybe I regret it and maybe not. But above all, I learned to forgive mistakes, so it’s okay if we fail, inside me overflows hope for a fresh start.

I value authenticity. If you feel like calling me at dawn, call me. If you feel insecure, talk. Don’t hold back close to me, don’t try to swallow your feelings and swallow your pride in tears. Nobody is counting the points, that’s the truth.

You don’t get on top when you tease me, you don’t fool me when you praise me, you don’t make me feel used if you don’t call me the next day. I don’t need your approval to feel good about myself. And if I’m with you, it’s not because I need to, but because I want to.

I chose you too, so your role in a relationship is not measured in the strength with which you pull her to you as if it were a tug of war, but in the courage you have to take risks and let go of your bonds without feeling like a loser.
I won’t insist that you like me.

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You need to accept that not everything can be changed. Accept me. That person ready, made for you, doesn’t exist. But be with someone who brings out the best in you and a real transformation will happen. This is called affinity, not soulmate.

At the end of the day, everyone knows within themselves to what extent they are willing to be the great love of someone’s life.